B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm at a bar right now and I can't approach anybody. I feel like I have nothing to say.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I think I have autism spectrum disorder
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Joke..Funny stuff is everywhere, just be careful and know your audience.
AlexKaiser
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Did you go alone?
B0redandl0nely
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No with a friend. I'm diagnosed bipolar and take lithium so I don't know if side effects might be causing my problens. Like maybe it is dulling my personality a bit. I drank quite a bit on top of everything. When I wasn't talking to people, it frustrated me so I went out to my car and I banged my head with my fists cause I really wanna talk to people but I feel so dull and blocked.
AlexKaiser
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What are your interests? What do you enjoy talking about?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
AlexKaiser
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Just get the target to talk about themselves. Bring up something that would get their mouth running. They got a tattoo? Ask the story. They here alone? ask the story. They tell you their night was hard, ask the story.
Pick things from the stories they tell you and keep it going.
Pick things from the stories they tell you and keep it going.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I enjoy asking people about themselves. I like sports, music, movies, health and fitness but lately I haven't been interested in much of anything because I've been so miserable living in my parent's house. I seem to complimenting girls more than getting the story. Does that sound like autism?
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm worried about having autism. I don't wanna be autistic. Maybe I should see an expert to tell me either way. I can't stop thinking about the possibility of being aspergers.
AlexKaiser
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It's hard to be confident bringing a girl home when your home ain't your own.
If I recall correctly complimenting girls is a bad idea since everyone does that? Make your compliments a rare delicacy for them.
I don't know what you want me to do...
um...
-waves a holy pendant-
begone autism! begone!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm not totally sure I have it. I've just become really awkward. Do I seem like I have it based on what I'm saying? Like I have people right now in front of me having fun and playing games and I can only post on this forum. I notice myself just smiling when I can't hear people. The bar is loud.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I don't mean loud as in it's bothering me. I can't hear people or project my voice
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Like no one is talking to me. It's scary
AlexKaiser
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Post a picture of yourself, I can usually tell if they have the accursed A just by looks.