B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm at a bar right now and I can't approach anybody. I feel like I have nothing to say.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think I have autism spectrum disorder
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Joke..Funny stuff is everywhere, just be careful and know your audience.
AlexKaiser
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Did you go alone?
B0redandl0nely
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No with a friend. I'm diagnosed bipolar and take lithium so I don't know if side effects might be causing my problens. Like maybe it is dulling my personality a bit. I drank quite a bit on top of everything. When I wasn't talking to people, it frustrated me so I went out to my car and I banged my head with my fists cause I really wanna talk to people but I feel so dull and blocked.
AlexKaiser
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What are your interests? What do you enjoy talking about?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
AlexKaiser
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Just get the target to talk about themselves. Bring up something that would get their mouth running. They got a tattoo? Ask the story. They here alone? ask the story. They tell you their night was hard, ask the story.
Pick things from the stories they tell you and keep it going.
Pick things from the stories they tell you and keep it going.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I enjoy asking people about themselves. I like sports, music, movies, health and fitness but lately I haven't been interested in much of anything because I've been so miserable living in my parent's house. I seem to complimenting girls more than getting the story. Does that sound like autism?
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm worried about having autism. I don't wanna be autistic. Maybe I should see an expert to tell me either way. I can't stop thinking about the possibility of being aspergers.
AlexKaiser
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It's hard to be confident bringing a girl home when your home ain't your own.
If I recall correctly complimenting girls is a bad idea since everyone does that? Make your compliments a rare delicacy for them.
I don't know what you want me to do...
um...
-waves a holy pendant-
begone autism! begone!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm not totally sure I have it. I've just become really awkward. Do I seem like I have it based on what I'm saying? Like I have people right now in front of me having fun and playing games and I can only post on this forum. I notice myself just smiling when I can't hear people. The bar is loud.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I don't mean loud as in it's bothering me. I can't hear people or project my voice
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Like no one is talking to me. It's scary
AlexKaiser
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Post a picture of yourself, I can usually tell if they have the accursed A just by looks.