B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm at a bar right now and I can't approach anybody. I feel like I have nothing to say.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think I have autism spectrum disorder
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Joke..Funny stuff is everywhere, just be careful and know your audience.
AlexKaiser
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Did you go alone?
B0redandl0nely
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No with a friend. I'm diagnosed bipolar and take lithium so I don't know if side effects might be causing my problens. Like maybe it is dulling my personality a bit. I drank quite a bit on top of everything. When I wasn't talking to people, it frustrated me so I went out to my car and I banged my head with my fists cause I really wanna talk to people but I feel so dull and blocked.
AlexKaiser
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What are your interests? What do you enjoy talking about?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
AlexKaiser
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Just get the target to talk about themselves. Bring up something that would get their mouth running. They got a tattoo? Ask the story. They here alone? ask the story. They tell you their night was hard, ask the story.
Pick things from the stories they tell you and keep it going.
Pick things from the stories they tell you and keep it going.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I enjoy asking people about themselves. I like sports, music, movies, health and fitness but lately I haven't been interested in much of anything because I've been so miserable living in my parent's house. I seem to complimenting girls more than getting the story. Does that sound like autism?
B0redandl0nely
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I'm worried about having autism. I don't wanna be autistic. Maybe I should see an expert to tell me either way. I can't stop thinking about the possibility of being aspergers.
AlexKaiser
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It's hard to be confident bringing a girl home when your home ain't your own.
If I recall correctly complimenting girls is a bad idea since everyone does that? Make your compliments a rare delicacy for them.
I don't know what you want me to do...
um...
-waves a holy pendant-
begone autism! begone!
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I'm not totally sure I have it. I've just become really awkward. Do I seem like I have it based on what I'm saying? Like I have people right now in front of me having fun and playing games and I can only post on this forum. I notice myself just smiling when I can't hear people. The bar is loud.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I don't mean loud as in it's bothering me. I can't hear people or project my voice
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Like no one is talking to me. It's scary
AlexKaiser
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Post a picture of yourself, I can usually tell if they have the accursed A just by looks.