Okay, so I don't have much of a problem striking interest in girls. But the problem is that eventually it just lowers and then fizzles out. regardless of what I do. Contact or no contact. Our conversations just start becoming duller and duller. So is there anyway to reverse or raise lowering interest level? And don't say No Contact, I've already tried and it doesn't change much for me.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I suck at keeping interest.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Decay of Meaning
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When does your conversation become duller and duller? In real life? When you talk electronically (be it on the computer or your mobile phone)?
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Your probably boring, redundant and or predictable. Keep them in suspense.. Tell them you'll call them at X time and don't .. Play little mind games that make sure they never know your next move..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Hmmm, mind games never lead to a good place. What I suggest is to fill your life with excitement, either with hobbies, jobs, volunteering, adventuring and then you'll never run out of things to say. Last night a girl told me that "being predictable" is one of the biggest turn off's. So turn it around, be spontaineous. etc etc.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.