Okay, so I don't have much of a problem striking interest in girls. But the problem is that eventually it just lowers and then fizzles out. regardless of what I do. Contact or no contact. Our conversations just start becoming duller and duller. So is there anyway to reverse or raise lowering interest level? And don't say No Contact, I've already tried and it doesn't change much for me.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I suck at keeping interest.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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When does your conversation become duller and duller? In real life? When you talk electronically (be it on the computer or your mobile phone)?
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Your probably boring, redundant and or predictable. Keep them in suspense.. Tell them you'll call them at X time and don't .. Play little mind games that make sure they never know your next move..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Hmmm, mind games never lead to a good place. What I suggest is to fill your life with excitement, either with hobbies, jobs, volunteering, adventuring and then you'll never run out of things to say. Last night a girl told me that "being predictable" is one of the biggest turn off's. So turn it around, be spontaineous. etc etc.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.