Okay, so I don't have much of a problem striking interest in girls. But the problem is that eventually it just lowers and then fizzles out. regardless of what I do. Contact or no contact. Our conversations just start becoming duller and duller. So is there anyway to reverse or raise lowering interest level? And don't say No Contact, I've already tried and it doesn't change much for me.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I suck at keeping interest.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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When does your conversation become duller and duller? In real life? When you talk electronically (be it on the computer or your mobile phone)?
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Your probably boring, redundant and or predictable. Keep them in suspense.. Tell them you'll call them at X time and don't .. Play little mind games that make sure they never know your next move..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Hmmm, mind games never lead to a good place. What I suggest is to fill your life with excitement, either with hobbies, jobs, volunteering, adventuring and then you'll never run out of things to say. Last night a girl told me that "being predictable" is one of the biggest turn off's. So turn it around, be spontaineous. etc etc.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.