Okay, so I don't have much of a problem striking interest in girls. But the problem is that eventually it just lowers and then fizzles out. regardless of what I do. Contact or no contact. Our conversations just start becoming duller and duller. So is there anyway to reverse or raise lowering interest level? And don't say No Contact, I've already tried and it doesn't change much for me.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I suck at keeping interest.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The Decay of Meaning
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When does your conversation become duller and duller? In real life? When you talk electronically (be it on the computer or your mobile phone)?
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Your probably boring, redundant and or predictable. Keep them in suspense.. Tell them you'll call them at X time and don't .. Play little mind games that make sure they never know your next move..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Hmmm, mind games never lead to a good place. What I suggest is to fill your life with excitement, either with hobbies, jobs, volunteering, adventuring and then you'll never run out of things to say. Last night a girl told me that "being predictable" is one of the biggest turn off's. So turn it around, be spontaineous. etc etc.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.