Okay, so I don't have much of a problem striking interest in girls. But the problem is that eventually it just lowers and then fizzles out. regardless of what I do. Contact or no contact. Our conversations just start becoming duller and duller. So is there anyway to reverse or raise lowering interest level? And don't say No Contact, I've already tried and it doesn't change much for me.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I suck at keeping interest.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
The Decay of Meaning
Don Juan
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When does your conversation become duller and duller? In real life? When you talk electronically (be it on the computer or your mobile phone)?
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Are you having a good time when you talk to these girls? Or are you only concerned with saying the right things?
What are your interests? Do you have anything interesting about you, or are you dull in terms of hobbies, work etc.?
If you're talking on the net for instance and having a conversation, there is no point in dragging it out until it becomes dull. Keep it short and sweet, and when you both are having a good time you can say "It was nice talking to you, but I got to go, see ya later".
You'll both remember that the last time you talked, things ended on a high note. This works well with all humans.
Your probably boring, redundant and or predictable. Keep them in suspense.. Tell them you'll call them at X time and don't .. Play little mind games that make sure they never know your next move..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Make sure your fun to be around. Laughter is key.
Laughter = Attraction.. If you can make her smile consistantly your in there like swimwear..
Alot of guys are so nervous around females that they can't relax and be a FUN guy..
Once I learned to make them laugh and make tons of eye contact I was set for life..
Hmmm, mind games never lead to a good place. What I suggest is to fill your life with excitement, either with hobbies, jobs, volunteering, adventuring and then you'll never run out of things to say. Last night a girl told me that "being predictable" is one of the biggest turn off's. So turn it around, be spontaineous. etc etc.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.