I may be getting a little black-pilled now...

[tksniper]

Dude the moderators know who I am. Since you are so close to @Serenity why don’t you ask him. All the moderators know who I am.

I’m in Philly. I’ve always been in Philly. We can meet any time and even have a “challenge.”

If you win, , I’ll stop posting forever. If I win, I won’t even ask you to stop posting. How’s that for a deal?

 

[BPH]

Dude the moderators know who I am. Since you are so close to @Serenity why don’t you ask him. All the moderators know who I am.

I’m in Philly. I’ve always been in Philly. We can meet any time and even have a “challenge.”

If you win, , I’ll stop posting forever. If I win, I won’t even ask you to stop posting. How’s that for a deal?

I find the difference in your behavior on this thread vs in my now 4 pages of your DMs to be quite odd.

Whether you are who you claim the mods know you to be, or who I think you COULD be, I'm not interested in flipping that coin.

 

[tksniper]

I find the difference in your behavior on this thread vs in my now 4 pages of your DMs to be quite odd.

Whether you are who you claim the mods know you to be, or who I think you COULD be, I'm not interested in flipping that coin.

That’s fine. I just felt your thread wasn’t value offering and self indulgent and I spoked out against it. We can agree to disagree.

 

[Solomon]

I doubt that the "Tea App" was ever well-intentioned. Whoever designed it knew full well that it would be abused. How could it possibly not be?? The whose thing is basically a libel/revenge app targeting men.

Im talking moreso about the facebook group orginally it was lnot a lot of women and then it blew up a couple years ago regardless these groups are trash honestly if a woman post yu in that group she is not a woman you should take seriosuly anyway. The women whom I know check the group or post guys are not quality at all and tend to enjoy gossip fodder

Pro tip: if you're a guy posted in one of those group change your pictures every 3-6 months and also your username

 

[BeExcellent]

@BPH I'm not saying you become something you entirely are not. You've got to be more flexible in your mindset.

This is why I said earlier this is at its core this is an identity issue. Who are you?

I'm not busting your chops but you have a notch count of over 100 and I encourage you to keep growing as a man. Part of that is understanding what role you are playing in any given environment. That's not about being fake or phony so much as its about knowing what aspects of your personality to emphasize in a certain environment.

Think about it. Do you emphasize being a player and seeking sexual interactions with women when you interact with your parents? Your mom? I doubt it. Does that mean you are being fake to your mom? No. Your playboy side is not what you are highlighting in that environment.

Just like in a club environment you do not blab about still living at home with your parents. Is that being fake? No. You exercise discretion in how you present yourself in an interaction. That's all. How you behave in a job interview is you know, putting your best self forward. If you are going to coach others it is important that you take stock of yourself and understand this.

You go back to the venue because you act like business as usual. Otherwise the idiots have run you off, and you look more creepy (it becomes an admission). Nope. If some girl says something snarky? Own it. Play along. Really? You heard what? I'm always amazed by the stories disappointed girls come up with, its something else....

Look. I have been gossip fodder before. By a pissed off ex I broke things off with. So I speak from experience. I used to joke about it. Someone would say my ex was bad mouthing me. I'd say, Oh boy. What have I done now? And I'd laugh. Fortunately Even my ex'es friends, both close friends and acquaintences, had never seen me exhibit any of the behaviors he would allege, and I'd just shrug & say, well that's too bad. And I've move on.

I never bad mouthed him in response.

In your case you carry on as before and work on your congruence. Otherwise you admit in a way that the allegations are warranted.

Does that make sense?

 

[BPH]

Think about it. Do you emphasize being a player and seeking sexual interactions with women when you interact with your parents? Your mom? I doubt it. Does that mean you are being fake to your mom? No. Your playboy side is not what you are highlighting in that environment.

Just like in a club environment you do not blab about still living at home with your parents. Is that being fake? No. You exercise discretion in how you present yourself in an interaction. That's all. How you behave in a job interview is you know, putting your best self forward. If you are going to coach others it is important that you take stock of yourself and understand this.

This section did a really great job helping me understand what you meant, and I see your point.

I appreciate the clarification. I can give it a shot next weekend. Right now, I usually go Thursdays and Fridays, and I don't have very high expectations, but I can keep an open mind.

 

[BeExcellent]

It is rarely warranted to change your routine to please an idiot. You do you & see what happens. Stop caring so much about outcome.

Outcome will happen sooner or later because you are doing your thing.

Be confident in doing your thing.

Cheers.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

If you find yourself annoyed, stressed, confused or anxious it's your sure sign that she is not interested in you.

Any girl attracted or interested in a guy would never do anything capable of pushing him away and losing him..this even before the fact that she herself would make everything easy for you in order to close the deal, she would in fact help you in any possible way.

 

[BadBoy89]

The reason this bothers me so is because I can't imagine what's being said about me if it's enough to convince somebody who's already met me that I must be vastly different than the person they met - and those claims can be made anonymously, with zero recourse for the person being "reviewed", and zero consequence for the person being dishonest with their "review".

I'm now wondering how many women at this bar have read the same things about me that this girl above has read, and believe them.

Bro it surprises me that you have so much experience with women, and then are surprised they act like this, This behaviour is 100% normal.

Like I said, I don't really have a goal with this post; I'm just very disappointed in the state of modern dating for men...I feel I'm living in the worst timeline to be a man...at least in terms of dating.

You’ve had 100+ lays and get this frazzled by some girls acting this? I’ve had girls tell me off way worse after taking them to nice places on 1st dates.

You’ve had it too easy with girls, that’s probably why you are upset.

Chris Evans started dating the woman he's now married to when he was 40 and she was 24. Leonardo DiCaprio is infamous for his "cutoff age" of 25 when it comes to the women he dates, while he is 50. But I do the same as a younger man, with a smaller age gap, and I'm a predator?

You are thinking in terms of logic, This isn’t about logic. This is about women making you feel bad and shameful and guilty for having sexual thoughts and feelings towards younger women, They know they can’t compete so they have to make it personal and shame.

If you went out with a 42 year old single mother, they would applaud it. Keanu Reeves, net worth 400M, starting dating a 45 year woman with WHITE hair when he was 54. Women applauded him for it.

I'm just extremely disappointed and wanted to share and vent about this experience.

Its fairly normal.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Get a buddy with you and take a flight down south to places like either Austin, San Diego, Tampa, or Honolulu or Maui Hawaii for a weekend or two and meet some new women there. Sounds like you need a vacation and a momentum shift and new perspective that there’s a world out there other than your current location.

 

[Plinco]

@BPH
You go back to the venue because you act like business as usual. Otherwise the idiots have run you off, and you look more creepy (it becomes an admission). Nope. If some girl says something snarky? Own it. Play along. Really? You heard what? I'm always amazed by the stories disappointed girls come up with, its something else....

Look. I have been gossip fodder before. By a pissed off ex I broke things off with. So I speak from experience. I used to joke about it. Someone would say my ex was bad mouthing me. I'd say, Oh boy. What have I done now? And I'd laugh. Fortunately Even my ex'es friends, both close friends and acquaintences, had never seen me exhibit any of the behaviors he would allege, and I'd just shrug & say, well that's too bad. And I've move on.

I never bad mouthed him in response.

In your case you carry on as before and work on your congruence. Otherwise you admit in a way that the allegations are warranted.

This is very well said.

 

[obelisk]

What's confusing to me is that I've never HAD to put on an act. I've always just been an ever-improving version of myself.

Granted, I try to present the best version of myself, but I've never felt like I needed to pretend to be something I'm not to achieve a result.

This is the part of your current mindset that is holding you back. You are labeling it an act vs realizing it has always been a choice as to how you let the world perceive you. You think there are parts of your life where you are being "authentic" and "real" without realizing they're simply periods of time where you are choosing to act in that particular way. Plato's Cave apples here. All those aspects are changeable parts of your persona. There's nothing "authentic" about it. Are you the exact same person you were 10 yrs ago? No, of course not. Which one is/was the authentic version of you? Neither, "authentic" is a cope that traps the black bill thinker until they realize it is an illusion like everything else.

I am surprised at @BeExcellent 's suggestion to revisit this place. "All publicity is good publicity" is something I'd agree with if there were attractive women who were curious enough to engage with me anyway - a significant portion of the attractive women that I'm seeing at this bar are there every weekend, and by now I've either approached them at some point, or know who their boyfriend is.

Stop revisiting the poisoned well (unless it's to leverage the "bad publicity" like BE says). Go two towns over and try a few new spots. Stop reengaging with these women AT THE EXACT SAME PLACE and expecting this crap to not follow you. Broaden your venues, especially if you're struggling with the player/nice guy dynamic. Either amplify into the bad behavior or punish bad behavior. You don't get to do both with the same woman. It's incongruent.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Let her talk. Who cares. Calvin Klein once said that all press is good press. Build up thicker skin, email the website about the particular post, and then just move on.

 

[Solomon]

Let her talk. Who cares. Calvin Klein once said that all press is good press. Build up thicker skin, email the website about the particular post, and then just move on.

If women are saying you got a small peepee or one pump chump that's not good press lmfao...I get your point tho

 

[Divorced w 3]

If women are saying you got a small peepee or one pump chump that's not good press lmfao...I get your point tho

You still fvcked her in that scenario, which is good, right.... crazy women cry about being pumped and dumped who says she's not just butthurt....which is all this scenario sounds like to me to be honest... Take the post down, move on

 

[Bokanovsky]

Calvin Klein once said that all press is good press.

Harvey Weinstein would disagree.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Harvey Weinstein would disagree.

For the 99% of the population that won't be committing violent sexual assault, like OP, a little air of mystery and social proof that he does in fact pull women, is counterintuitive and attractive. Now look, I would 100% take it down, but bottom line, is he a man who doesn't care about what some cat lady who he never wanted is chirping about on a website, or is he going to wilt and prove her to be right.

 

[sevbucmash]

Dudes. Which tea app? There is a ton of tea apps in app store. Which one?

 

[Clockwerk50]

Harvey Weinstein would disagree.

The 48 Laws of Power also disagrees with the “all press is good press” concept.

 

[Divorced w 3]

The 48 Laws of Power also disagrees with the “all press is good press” concept.

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with respect to your all knowing of Robert Greene, he also said maintain an air of mystery. Not to mention I'll take Calvin Klein's actual success over Robert Greene's mental masturbation (those who can't do, teach, kind of like you) , yes it's nice he wrote a book but he's not even in Klein's shadow in term's of whose accomplished more in life.

Regarding reputation, it's been 2 years since you joined and we're yet to receive one field report from you.