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Whats The Fastest Most Convinient Way Of Getting Rid Of Fcuking oneitis?! Fcukin Hate This ****!!!!!!!!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I know this has been asked TOO many times...
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
reallyfreakinlost
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Oneitus is my middle name, and i'm PROUD of it. what... what are you gonna do about it? I think oneitus is a good thing, I know I'm alone in this but I'm the only person with the ballz to deal with heartbreak, it seems you wusses dont' even want to leave the shallow end of the pool.
Like I said earlier, sex is only 25% of what girls have to offer.
Like I said earlier, sex is only 25% of what girls have to offer.
squirrels
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See other women.
That...and get some self-esteem.
One-itis is a misdirected feeling of NEED toward someone. You put all your faith in them and get to a point where you feel that you NEED them to fulfill you. In reality, the only person you should feel one-itis for is the person in the mirror.
That...and get some self-esteem.
One-itis is a misdirected feeling of NEED toward someone. You put all your faith in them and get to a point where you feel that you NEED them to fulfill you. In reality, the only person you should feel one-itis for is the person in the mirror.
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Your username suits you. Go away.reallyfreakinlost said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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thanks man...but the thing is, this breezy has been fully accepted into my social circle and is now kicking it with them. I really hate to leave this group because they're like family to me. Plus, she's dating one of them. As for contacting her just to talk or hang out, I havent done so in 8 months. Yea...this would be alot easier if she werent around my group. =/Desdinova said:
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Your username suits you better, think about it.squirrels said:
Squirrels have small penises.
Squirrels always run away when they get scared.
Squirrels like nuts in their mouth.
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.......and when you come back, be sure your old oneitis sees your newer, hotter GF....
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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yea, i did the dissapering act for a little over a month and have been kicking it with them seldomly since then. I also try to make sure she and my friend shes currently dating arent around as much as possible. But when I do plan to hang out with them when the 2 are around, I make sure to gather courage and read some of the 'self assurance' stuff on this site...yea, still cant help but feel the slight sting when I see her and especially when she's with my friend...ONEITIS SUCKS!!!flexion_ said:
Haven't had that feeling in a while, but I remember it being a good thing. I do agree with some posters when they say its a good thing sometimes. Every human being likes to need something outside of themselves sometimes, but when it inhibits your life that's when it turns bad...
Anyway, I had it bad for one female and after 3 months of solid game, then 1 month of complete AFC crash and burn antics I put my balls on the table and made sure I couldn't fool myself anymore... called her up and said...
"hey want to have sex this wknd ? I'm free after work aroun 3ish ?"
She told me the truth that i NEEDED to hear and that's that me and her would NEVER be fvcking in our lifetimes and that she didn't see me that way and that she was just being friendly... ahhh sweet truth and honesty it sets you free.... I felt bad for litteraly 3 or so days and then invigorated to move on with my life... try it out mate
-Cod3r
Anyway, I had it bad for one female and after 3 months of solid game, then 1 month of complete AFC crash and burn antics I put my balls on the table and made sure I couldn't fool myself anymore... called her up and said...
"hey want to have sex this wknd ? I'm free after work aroun 3ish ?"
She told me the truth that i NEEDED to hear and that's that me and her would NEVER be fvcking in our lifetimes and that she didn't see me that way and that she was just being friendly... ahhh sweet truth and honesty it sets you free.... I felt bad for litteraly 3 or so days and then invigorated to move on with my life... try it out mate
-Cod3r
time mate, time and chekcing out other girls and approachign other girls
think of it this way, if a frined of yours were to offer you 50 dollars to approach a girl, youd do it wouldn t you? becuase you wouldn't care how bad it went or how emabrased you may get, youll still get that 50 dollars and youll be more realxed becuse you can jsut say in your head that your only doing it for the money
just imagine that every time you want to approach, dont even think
and DONT let oppotuniites pass
think of it this way, if a frined of yours were to offer you 50 dollars to approach a girl, youd do it wouldn t you? becuase you wouldn't care how bad it went or how emabrased you may get, youll still get that 50 dollars and youll be more realxed becuse you can jsut say in your head that your only doing it for the money
just imagine that every time you want to approach, dont even think
and DONT let oppotuniites pass
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Alright guys, this was really helpful(and funny:crackup: ). Thanks for sharing.lordson said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.