Lately a lot of women are accusing me of being a player or "not being serious about dating" when in reality I'm just being smart and playing it safe until I get to know them. The days of me falling head over heels in love within 5 mins are long gone, I've learned a lot from my mistakes of doing that but now I'm being punished for being cautious. I no longer allow myself to grow feelings for a girl until she proves to me she's worthy of such feelings and I think this is pissing them off for some reason. Anyone else experiencing this? I thought women loved a challenge? I am learning that older broads don't seem to like challenges compared to younger one's.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I keep being called a player but really I'm just being cautious
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
stevo
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The 'player' rep scares women away, what I do is deny it, let them know I'm interested/looking for something serious. That way you're giving them something to chase after, giving them hope they might ''win'' you. One thing you don't wanna do is justify being a player or argue about it.
stevo
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Right, for me that's the no strings women and they could care less about you being a player but sometimes you come across those who think its ''disgusting'', regardless though there's no point arguing about it, just act in whatever way would drop those panties.skinnyguy said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Between_The_Lines
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Stick to your guns man. This sounds like rationalized neediness (on their part), like someone trying to lock someone else down into an exclusive relationship as quickly as possible to fend off other potential prospects. I say stay the course. And what girl wouldn't want to be "the one" to capture the heart of a player? If you're being labeled a "player", you're definitely playing your cards well.