Lately a lot of women are accusing me of being a player or "not being serious about dating" when in reality I'm just being smart and playing it safe until I get to know them. The days of me falling head over heels in love within 5 mins are long gone, I've learned a lot from my mistakes of doing that but now I'm being punished for being cautious. I no longer allow myself to grow feelings for a girl until she proves to me she's worthy of such feelings and I think this is pissing them off for some reason. Anyone else experiencing this? I thought women loved a challenge? I am learning that older broads don't seem to like challenges compared to younger one's.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I keep being called a player but really I'm just being cautious
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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The 'player' rep scares women away, what I do is deny it, let them know I'm interested/looking for something serious. That way you're giving them something to chase after, giving them hope they might ''win'' you. One thing you don't wanna do is justify being a player or argue about it.
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Right, for me that's the no strings women and they could care less about you being a player but sometimes you come across those who think its ''disgusting'', regardless though there's no point arguing about it, just act in whatever way would drop those panties.skinnyguy said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Between_The_Lines
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Stick to your guns man. This sounds like rationalized neediness (on their part), like someone trying to lock someone else down into an exclusive relationship as quickly as possible to fend off other potential prospects. I say stay the course. And what girl wouldn't want to be "the one" to capture the heart of a player? If you're being labeled a "player", you're definitely playing your cards well.