Lately a lot of women are accusing me of being a player or "not being serious about dating" when in reality I'm just being smart and playing it safe until I get to know them. The days of me falling head over heels in love within 5 mins are long gone, I've learned a lot from my mistakes of doing that but now I'm being punished for being cautious. I no longer allow myself to grow feelings for a girl until she proves to me she's worthy of such feelings and I think this is pissing them off for some reason. Anyone else experiencing this? I thought women loved a challenge? I am learning that older broads don't seem to like challenges compared to younger one's.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I keep being called a player but really I'm just being cautious
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
stevo
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The 'player' rep scares women away, what I do is deny it, let them know I'm interested/looking for something serious. That way you're giving them something to chase after, giving them hope they might ''win'' you. One thing you don't wanna do is justify being a player or argue about it.
stevo
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Right, for me that's the no strings women and they could care less about you being a player but sometimes you come across those who think its ''disgusting'', regardless though there's no point arguing about it, just act in whatever way would drop those panties.skinnyguy said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Between_The_Lines
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Stick to your guns man. This sounds like rationalized neediness (on their part), like someone trying to lock someone else down into an exclusive relationship as quickly as possible to fend off other potential prospects. I say stay the course. And what girl wouldn't want to be "the one" to capture the heart of a player? If you're being labeled a "player", you're definitely playing your cards well.