Lately a lot of women are accusing me of being a player or "not being serious about dating" when in reality I'm just being smart and playing it safe until I get to know them. The days of me falling head over heels in love within 5 mins are long gone, I've learned a lot from my mistakes of doing that but now I'm being punished for being cautious. I no longer allow myself to grow feelings for a girl until she proves to me she's worthy of such feelings and I think this is pissing them off for some reason. Anyone else experiencing this? I thought women loved a challenge? I am learning that older broads don't seem to like challenges compared to younger one's.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I keep being called a player but really I'm just being cautious
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
stevo
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The 'player' rep scares women away, what I do is deny it, let them know I'm interested/looking for something serious. That way you're giving them something to chase after, giving them hope they might ''win'' you. One thing you don't wanna do is justify being a player or argue about it.
stevo
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Right, for me that's the no strings women and they could care less about you being a player but sometimes you come across those who think its ''disgusting'', regardless though there's no point arguing about it, just act in whatever way would drop those panties.skinnyguy said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Between_The_Lines
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Stick to your guns man. This sounds like rationalized neediness (on their part), like someone trying to lock someone else down into an exclusive relationship as quickly as possible to fend off other potential prospects. I say stay the course. And what girl wouldn't want to be "the one" to capture the heart of a player? If you're being labeled a "player", you're definitely playing your cards well.