You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's not co-dependancy. That's the joy of each others' company. It becomes co-dependancy when the two of you feel the NEED to be together.
I'm really hoping that this comment wasn't directed at me. I've been with my woman 9 times longer than you've been with yours.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'm not talking about this thread in particular, but all your recent threads. They're very lovey dovey, and the infatuation that you have shown ever since you met this girl does not match up with the behaviour of a guy who has been with 25 women because by that time, you would have experianced girls behaving this way with you several times and become somewhat desensitized to it. It's just an observation.
No...I have..im just expressing myself....I do go overboard with it...being at the office 50 hours a week can do that to you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
where did u go?
Ohhhhh when a guy says "no one knows what its like" or "its diffrent between me and her" thats when you know hes turning into your typical nice guy. It doesnt matter some girls like nice guys yours sounds like she does. I saw your reffer to her as a church going nerd. Then yeh she might be into the whole nice guy thing lucky for you.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.