Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That's not co-dependancy. That's the joy of each others' company. It becomes co-dependancy when the two of you feel the NEED to be together.
I'm really hoping that this comment wasn't directed at me. I've been with my woman 9 times longer than you've been with yours.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I'm not talking about this thread in particular, but all your recent threads. They're very lovey dovey, and the infatuation that you have shown ever since you met this girl does not match up with the behaviour of a guy who has been with 25 women because by that time, you would have experianced girls behaving this way with you several times and become somewhat desensitized to it. It's just an observation.
No...I have..im just expressing myself....I do go overboard with it...being at the office 50 hours a week can do that to you.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
where did u go?
Ohhhhh when a guy says "no one knows what its like" or "its diffrent between me and her" thats when you know hes turning into your typical nice guy. It doesnt matter some girls like nice guys yours sounds like she does. I saw your reffer to her as a church going nerd. Then yeh she might be into the whole nice guy thing lucky for you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.