That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That's not co-dependancy. That's the joy of each others' company. It becomes co-dependancy when the two of you feel the NEED to be together.
I'm really hoping that this comment wasn't directed at me. I've been with my woman 9 times longer than you've been with yours.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm not talking about this thread in particular, but all your recent threads. They're very lovey dovey, and the infatuation that you have shown ever since you met this girl does not match up with the behaviour of a guy who has been with 25 women because by that time, you would have experianced girls behaving this way with you several times and become somewhat desensitized to it. It's just an observation.
No...I have..im just expressing myself....I do go overboard with it...being at the office 50 hours a week can do that to you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
where did u go?
Ohhhhh when a guy says "no one knows what its like" or "its diffrent between me and her" thats when you know hes turning into your typical nice guy. It doesnt matter some girls like nice guys yours sounds like she does. I saw your reffer to her as a church going nerd. Then yeh she might be into the whole nice guy thing lucky for you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.