"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have cancer

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Warboss Alex said:
but what's important is that you've caught it early and it's being treated.. in a year's time you'll be back to your best and you'll just look at this as a minor pothole. :)
Actually these are the potholes that can swallow your car if you're not careful :D

wolf116 said:
I wish I knew why this sh!t would happen to a fitness fanatic.
You're looking at it backwards dude. The life you chose to live and the path you took--in regards to your health--gave you an excellent chance to beat cancer.

And look at the perspective/psychological strength it's given you... Those things are hard to come by in a monotonous and mediocre life. It's still to early to say, but I wouldn't be surprised if in 10-15 years you'll look back and think that this was the best thing to ever happen to you(in a backhanded way, of course).
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Everything I read on health and fitness is saying sh!t like, eating broccoli gives you a 30% reduced risk of cancer, berries every day 20% less likely, yellow veggies 10% less, omega 3's and fresh fish 20%, WPC 20%, eggs, green tea, not drinking or smoking, fresh fruit, turmeric etc. Exercise every day reduces cancer risk, growing up in the country reduces cancer risk, cooking in cast iron reduces cancer risk, having sex reduces risk, having no cancers in your family tree reduces risk.
I should have a -500% chance of getting cancer.

You can't help but wonder if eating too much healthy food and exercising too much can give you cancer as well. lol. I know it's my cr@ppy genetics that caused this, but who knows if it could have been prevented if I just took it easy on my weakling genetics.

Lots of people who get cured from cancer can be some of the fattest, laziest, and most negative people in the world. Cancer doesn't give a cr@p. Science, medicine and doctors cure cancer not food. I've just been reading that too much vitamin C and antioxidants can reduce the effectiveness of chemo after I'm been hammering them down this whole time.

I'm confident of a total cure because my odds are as good as cancer odds get.


Cancer may just be one of the best things that happen to me tho, you could be right. When I'm cured I'll be living a totally different life then before. I'm fixing up an old van and I'm going to become nomadic. Screw uni and desk jobs, it's a waste of life. Hopefully I'll be training in a different gym every month.
 

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Hey Wolf,

Glad to hear that the treatment is doing well.

I wouldnt give much time thinking about the genentics thing..

It's like poker, you cannot change the hand that was dealt. But you can play the game and win. And I think you have already overcome that.

Be ALIVE (as opposed to just living)
 

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Yeah, I went a bit stupid with the poor me cr@p in the previous post.
I'll be creating a training journal soon enough.
 

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think of it this way: you did everything right from a nutritional sense, if you hadn't, maybe you wouldn't have been able to get through this as well as you have done.

how many people with cancer can say they got over it in in less than 4 months and were back weightlifting soon after it? (especially if their genetics were prone to it)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wolf, you are an inspiration.

Keep up the good work! :up:

All the best.
 

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Way to be positive and stay focussed. God bless you wolf, your life is only truly beginning now.
 

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Nutrition can help alot, but some factors are just out of your control. In Montreal there is an area where women get a really high incidence of breast cancer. No one knows why, it may be the pollution or something else. In silicon valley, it has some of the most toxic water from all the silicon manufacturing. It passes the EPA, but it is more toxic than most of the other areas in America. You can control everything you do but you can't control all the factors around you, esp. the ones you don't know about.
 

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It's good to see you're checking up on me spes. Thanks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ye merry christmas wolf hang in there you can do it! make you sure you smoke that weed good " puff" " puff" goodluck buddy!
 

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Thanks guys, All the cancer is gone and I'll reach a full remission for sure.

But... they added an extra 2 months to the chemo because I was so advanced. I've got about 4 months left. yay

Big thanks to EFFORT and Rounder for getting me into and helping me out with online poker. I would have lost my mind otherwise.
 

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YEAH MAN!!! A FULL REMISSION?!?! CONGRATS!!


If I'm ever in your area, we are getting a celebratory drink.:cool:


lol @ me being 17 and talking about drinking with Mr. Ironman
 

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Hey man i'm really glad to hear this! Sorry i haven't sweat you in awhile i've been on sort of a bad run, but things are getting better. I'll sweat you again soon.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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wolf116 said:
Thanks guys, All the cancer is gone and I'll reach a full remission for sure.

But... they added an extra 2 months to the chemo because I was so advanced. I've got about 4 months left. yay

Big thanks to EFFORT and Rounder for getting me into and helping me out with online poker. I would have lost my mind otherwise.
Glad to hear wolf. Lots to look forward to after this.
 

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Man, I don't know if you heard of it, but in the movie THE SECRET a woman tells how she was diagnosed with cancer and after 2 months or so of watching funny movies, programs that made her laugh and feel good, she got rid of cancer. Another example given by Tony Robbins in one of his programs (I don't remember which one it was, maybe living health) where he says how a woman got rid of the toxins in her body, which eliminated the cancer cells.

Check it out, I'm sure that you will find a way to beat it, the world is full of examples where people won against deseases that were believed to be uncurable.

good luck
 

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wolf116 said:
Lots of people who get cured from cancer can be some of the fattest, laziest, and most negative people in the world. Cancer doesn't give a cr@p. Science, medicine and doctors cure cancer not food. I've just been reading that too much vitamin C and antioxidants can reduce the effectiveness of chemo after I'm been hammering them down this whole time.
I disagree. There has been stories of people who have survived cancer by eating healthy.

Chemo kills every damn cell in the body part it's used.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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