"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have cancer

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Warboss Alex said:
we're behind ya Wolfy. you'll be back under the bar in no time. :)
Thanks, I did a nice squat session today actually. I decided not to stop squatting even if I have to go as low as bodyweight squats. It took me almost a year to get the flexibility and I don't want to start over.

I was powercleaning 60kgs up to front squats for reps of 7 for a nice stretch. I'm also now personally training a close friend in my garage so I will still be around the iron :)
 

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wolf116 said:
Thanks, I did a nice squat session today actually. I decided not to stop squatting even if I have to go as low as bodyweight squats. It took me almost a year to get the flexibility and I don't want to start over.

I was powercleaning 60kgs up to front squats for reps of 7 for a nice stretch. I'm also now personally training a close friend in my garage so I will still be around the iron :)
Great to hear man! Can't keep a good man down. :D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm responding extremely well to treatment and the cancer on my neck has noticeably shrunk in just two weeks! I'm also experiencing less side effects then expected and I'm actually feeling great right now. My chemo is in two week intervals so I have time to recover from the side effects and they say I've already been through the worst of it. They predict that I will finish treatment in January.

I'm pretty excited right now knowing that I responded better then expected.
 

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Sounds great Wolf..and really inspiring to hear your progress against this terrible disease. It will be nice to put on your CV that you beat Cancer :D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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wolf116 said:
I'm responding extremely well to treatment and the cancer on my neck has noticeably shrunk in just two weeks! I'm also experiencing less side effects then expected and I'm actually feeling great right now. My chemo is in two week intervals so I have time to recover from the side effects and they say I've already been through the worst of it. They predict that I will finish treatment in January.

I'm pretty excited right now knowing that I responded better then expected.
Of course, you're at the top of the population in terms of fitness and nutrition.
 

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Hey wolf, how is your health lately?
 

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I'm doing OK guys.
With chemo, as time goes on, the worse I feel and the weaker I get, but the cancer is getting smaller all the time.
I'm just over the predicted halfway mark. So I have 3 months left.

I wish I knew why this sh!t would happen to a fitness fanatic.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wolf116 said:
I wish I knew why this sh!t would happen to a fitness fanatic.
it has nothing to do with your fitness or dietary regime mate.. not your fault. for it to happen to someone so young it's more genetics than anything else. it hasn't come as a result of you abusing your body for years and years.

but what's important is that you've caught it early and it's being treated.. in a year's time you'll be back to your best and you'll just look at this as a minor pothole. :)
 

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wolf116 said:
I'm doing OK guys.
With chemo, as time goes on, the worse I feel and the weaker I get, but the cancer is getting smaller all the time.
I'm just over the predicted halfway mark. So I have 3 months left.

I wish I knew why this sh!t would happen to a fitness fanatic.
You have 3 months left to what? Until you complete the chemo treatment?

And hey dude, I feel for you about getting cancer at this young age to a healthy guy. Not saying that I've been in your shoes, but I've had other chronic disease when I was much, much younger. I felt like it completely ruined my childhood because I couldn't do lot of things that normal children could do.

Anyway, it's perfectly understandable to feel like you were cheated and given a bad hand to play with when you have been doing everything else perfect and played all of the hands perfectly (i.e. fitness fanaticism). The only thing I'll tell you is that the sooner and more readily you accept the fact that sometimes problems/causes are out of your control, the more peaceful your state of mind will become.

Like Alex said, it has a lot to do with your genetics than anything else...that I'm sure you already know by now though. And I believe you are making the best of this situation. So keep it up. :up:
 

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fuzzx: fortunately, Wolf is on the road to recovery :) he'll be back throwing about the iron like a good 'un before you know it.
 

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Yeah guys, 3 months left of chemo and maybe some radio, not my life!!! lol.

They can't even find any cancer left in my lung. They were going to put me on 8 months of the stuff until me and the chemo obliterated the sh!t. I could actually be cancer free ATM but they can't tell with a blood test with my type of cancer. I just have to go through another 3 months for safety.

I stay sane by planning my new life after chemo and lots of fishing. I'm going to travel the world after treatment and just have as much fun as possible. Because know one ever knows how long you have left.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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