Tenacity
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Fine dude. Hell, all I was doing was asking you to clarify some of the responses you made.*Shakes head and leaves thread*
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Fine dude. Hell, all I was doing was asking you to clarify some of the responses you made.*Shakes head and leaves thread*
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And yet you and Slick, who keep repeating this, refuse to talk about where you meet 100s - 1,000s of these types of women over and over, because you want to remain anonymous.Tenacity, I find it quite odd that you cannot secure an attractive girl, with good finances, and no kids.
I have literally dated hundreds of these kinds of women.
Those are two options, another option is that I could be in a bad geographical area to find the type of woman I'm looking for. Can you tell me why is it that you always refuse to list this as a possibility? The fact is that a lot of women with the criteria I list, have moved to the South and are surely no longer in Michigan, so I'm dealing with the issue of there being a scarcity problem out of the gate. Again, this is a FACT, look up the demographics of Metro (suburban) Detroit. There's just not a lot of black women in general that fit the criteria I'm looking for over here.So either you are not being forthcoming with who you are actually meeting or you have significant personality flaws that repel women.
- From all I know is that I have anger issues, but those issues push women away I already GET. Those issues usually come out on a girl I already have, I don't walk up to people I don't know and go off.I lean more toward the latter. You don't seem like a class act.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Have you EVER dated black women?Sure, demographics play a role but not to the extent where 15% of the top women dwindle down to 0.
Here's a little clue my friend: women have a bad attitude when they don't want to keep you around. In others words ...
YOU are not their top priority.
I guess the answer is No, you haven't dated black women that much. So maybe you should stop trying to get up here preaching like you know everything when you don't?You have a goal. Stop whining. Stop blaming. Stop justifying. If you hit a brick wall, adjust your game plan. Go after it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well...if you REMEMBER.....If the issue is you are a big game hunter looking for lions in the Arctic, clearly the odds are against you. Do you stay in the Arctic and continually tell people how rare it is to see lions there? Do you keep looking for lions in the arctic, waiting and hoping someday they will appear in abundance there? Do you leave and go where the lions are? Do you decide you'd rather stay in the arctic choose to be satisfied with hunting polar bears or something else? What choices do you make and what actions do you take, to be self responsible so that you are happy and fulfilled in your own life?
I'M NOT IN FLINT, MICHIGAN.Quite the opposite. If you read my first post in this thread, I had stated to date outside of Flint, MI and to stop dating black women for increased sampling.
After reading 15 pages of you whine, my prescription changed: your specific problem is not demographics, it's YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Listen, all I'm saying is that when I get up here and post....I'm posting to help Tenacity. It's sort of like another mirror, I'm not interested in being some "role model" or anything of the sort. So if you feel as though my ramblings are too much, too extreme, bytch-like and whining, then like I said Legend...you don't have to interact with me on my threads.Irrelevant.
On your second point: you are on a public forum. I have made logical arguments, rhetoric, and suggestions to your problem, for which YOU are requesting help. Don't let emotion cloud your understanding brother (is it ok to call you brother if I'm white or is that too a black "thing"?)
No, I don't live in Flint. I've already said 1,000 times where I stay at. And yes, if the posts come off as whining, STOP replying to them like I said. If I'm a "lost cause", then do me a favor and just let me RANT to myself on my own thread.1) You have your pics, occupation, education, and specific location (was it Flint?) pasted all over this forum. To anyone who wanted to find who you really are, it wouldn't be that difficult. Ergo, you are already OUT THERE.
2) Whine all you like. Whining only aggrandizes the issue and reinforces your conditioned helplessness.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.