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Fine dude. Hell, all I was doing was asking you to clarify some of the responses you made.*Shakes head and leaves thread*
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Fine dude. Hell, all I was doing was asking you to clarify some of the responses you made.*Shakes head and leaves thread*
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
And yet you and Slick, who keep repeating this, refuse to talk about where you meet 100s - 1,000s of these types of women over and over, because you want to remain anonymous.Tenacity, I find it quite odd that you cannot secure an attractive girl, with good finances, and no kids.
I have literally dated hundreds of these kinds of women.
Those are two options, another option is that I could be in a bad geographical area to find the type of woman I'm looking for. Can you tell me why is it that you always refuse to list this as a possibility? The fact is that a lot of women with the criteria I list, have moved to the South and are surely no longer in Michigan, so I'm dealing with the issue of there being a scarcity problem out of the gate. Again, this is a FACT, look up the demographics of Metro (suburban) Detroit. There's just not a lot of black women in general that fit the criteria I'm looking for over here.So either you are not being forthcoming with who you are actually meeting or you have significant personality flaws that repel women.
- From all I know is that I have anger issues, but those issues push women away I already GET. Those issues usually come out on a girl I already have, I don't walk up to people I don't know and go off.I lean more toward the latter. You don't seem like a class act.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Have you EVER dated black women?Sure, demographics play a role but not to the extent where 15% of the top women dwindle down to 0.
Here's a little clue my friend: women have a bad attitude when they don't want to keep you around. In others words ...
YOU are not their top priority.
I guess the answer is No, you haven't dated black women that much. So maybe you should stop trying to get up here preaching like you know everything when you don't?You have a goal. Stop whining. Stop blaming. Stop justifying. If you hit a brick wall, adjust your game plan. Go after it.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well...if you REMEMBER.....If the issue is you are a big game hunter looking for lions in the Arctic, clearly the odds are against you. Do you stay in the Arctic and continually tell people how rare it is to see lions there? Do you keep looking for lions in the arctic, waiting and hoping someday they will appear in abundance there? Do you leave and go where the lions are? Do you decide you'd rather stay in the arctic choose to be satisfied with hunting polar bears or something else? What choices do you make and what actions do you take, to be self responsible so that you are happy and fulfilled in your own life?
I'M NOT IN FLINT, MICHIGAN.Quite the opposite. If you read my first post in this thread, I had stated to date outside of Flint, MI and to stop dating black women for increased sampling.
After reading 15 pages of you whine, my prescription changed: your specific problem is not demographics, it's YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Listen, all I'm saying is that when I get up here and post....I'm posting to help Tenacity. It's sort of like another mirror, I'm not interested in being some "role model" or anything of the sort. So if you feel as though my ramblings are too much, too extreme, bytch-like and whining, then like I said Legend...you don't have to interact with me on my threads.Irrelevant.
On your second point: you are on a public forum. I have made logical arguments, rhetoric, and suggestions to your problem, for which YOU are requesting help. Don't let emotion cloud your understanding brother (is it ok to call you brother if I'm white or is that too a black "thing"?)
No, I don't live in Flint. I've already said 1,000 times where I stay at. And yes, if the posts come off as whining, STOP replying to them like I said. If I'm a "lost cause", then do me a favor and just let me RANT to myself on my own thread.1) You have your pics, occupation, education, and specific location (was it Flint?) pasted all over this forum. To anyone who wanted to find who you really are, it wouldn't be that difficult. Ergo, you are already OUT THERE.
2) Whine all you like. Whining only aggrandizes the issue and reinforces your conditioned helplessness.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.