Tenacity
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Fine dude. Hell, all I was doing was asking you to clarify some of the responses you made.*Shakes head and leaves thread*
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Fine dude. Hell, all I was doing was asking you to clarify some of the responses you made.*Shakes head and leaves thread*
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
And yet you and Slick, who keep repeating this, refuse to talk about where you meet 100s - 1,000s of these types of women over and over, because you want to remain anonymous.Tenacity, I find it quite odd that you cannot secure an attractive girl, with good finances, and no kids.
I have literally dated hundreds of these kinds of women.
Those are two options, another option is that I could be in a bad geographical area to find the type of woman I'm looking for. Can you tell me why is it that you always refuse to list this as a possibility? The fact is that a lot of women with the criteria I list, have moved to the South and are surely no longer in Michigan, so I'm dealing with the issue of there being a scarcity problem out of the gate. Again, this is a FACT, look up the demographics of Metro (suburban) Detroit. There's just not a lot of black women in general that fit the criteria I'm looking for over here.So either you are not being forthcoming with who you are actually meeting or you have significant personality flaws that repel women.
- From all I know is that I have anger issues, but those issues push women away I already GET. Those issues usually come out on a girl I already have, I don't walk up to people I don't know and go off.I lean more toward the latter. You don't seem like a class act.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Have you EVER dated black women?Sure, demographics play a role but not to the extent where 15% of the top women dwindle down to 0.
Here's a little clue my friend: women have a bad attitude when they don't want to keep you around. In others words ...
YOU are not their top priority.
I guess the answer is No, you haven't dated black women that much. So maybe you should stop trying to get up here preaching like you know everything when you don't?You have a goal. Stop whining. Stop blaming. Stop justifying. If you hit a brick wall, adjust your game plan. Go after it.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Well...if you REMEMBER.....If the issue is you are a big game hunter looking for lions in the Arctic, clearly the odds are against you. Do you stay in the Arctic and continually tell people how rare it is to see lions there? Do you keep looking for lions in the arctic, waiting and hoping someday they will appear in abundance there? Do you leave and go where the lions are? Do you decide you'd rather stay in the arctic choose to be satisfied with hunting polar bears or something else? What choices do you make and what actions do you take, to be self responsible so that you are happy and fulfilled in your own life?
I'M NOT IN FLINT, MICHIGAN.Quite the opposite. If you read my first post in this thread, I had stated to date outside of Flint, MI and to stop dating black women for increased sampling.
After reading 15 pages of you whine, my prescription changed: your specific problem is not demographics, it's YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Listen, all I'm saying is that when I get up here and post....I'm posting to help Tenacity. It's sort of like another mirror, I'm not interested in being some "role model" or anything of the sort. So if you feel as though my ramblings are too much, too extreme, bytch-like and whining, then like I said Legend...you don't have to interact with me on my threads.Irrelevant.
On your second point: you are on a public forum. I have made logical arguments, rhetoric, and suggestions to your problem, for which YOU are requesting help. Don't let emotion cloud your understanding brother (is it ok to call you brother if I'm white or is that too a black "thing"?)
No, I don't live in Flint. I've already said 1,000 times where I stay at. And yes, if the posts come off as whining, STOP replying to them like I said. If I'm a "lost cause", then do me a favor and just let me RANT to myself on my own thread.1) You have your pics, occupation, education, and specific location (was it Flint?) pasted all over this forum. To anyone who wanted to find who you really are, it wouldn't be that difficult. Ergo, you are already OUT THERE.
2) Whine all you like. Whining only aggrandizes the issue and reinforces your conditioned helplessness.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.