"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have abandonment issues

Capt.America

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That's why I can't be successful with girls ... What's the next step the dj bible focuses mostly on improving for girls but U wanna do it for myself
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NeverChase

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Acknowledge the problem, feel it, but don't let it kick in to control your behavior.
Don't fight it with rationalization, it will make it much worse. Just be aware and don't be too anxious or depressed about it.
 

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Is it because they left you in that ice for so long?
 

Capt.America

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But how I realized this for long ever since I had trouble with my gf and didn't wsnt to leave Her... I work out and still yearn to Still have girl by side to be happy with .
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Between_The_Lines

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Capt.America said:
But how I realized this for long ever since I had trouble with my gf and didn't wsnt to leave Her... I work out and still yearn to Still have girl by side to be happy with .
Keep improving until you can sincerely make yourself proud. When you get there, raise the bar some more, and continue your efforts. Along the way, feel free to allow a girl into your life who compliments this process or at least does not not disrupt it.
 

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taht is the first problem I see you still consider you need a girl/woman/wife in your life to be happy, and you forogt no one can give you happiness, if you want to be happy build what you consider a happy life, what job you want to do, what house you want to do, what skills you want to have learn what you wish for?
want to have a farm and work the land? do so,
have a ranch raise horses? ok go on,
have your own bussiness? go ahead
wanna learn how to burp the alphabet? do it

its something you need to ask yourself, kind you already know the answers but you are too afraid to act on then to make thena reality
 
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