"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I have abandonment issues

Capt.America

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That's why I can't be successful with girls ... What's the next step the dj bible focuses mostly on improving for girls but U wanna do it for myself
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Acknowledge the problem, feel it, but don't let it kick in to control your behavior.
Don't fight it with rationalization, it will make it much worse. Just be aware and don't be too anxious or depressed about it.
 

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Is it because they left you in that ice for so long?
 

Capt.America

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But how I realized this for long ever since I had trouble with my gf and didn't wsnt to leave Her... I work out and still yearn to Still have girl by side to be happy with .
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Between_The_Lines

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Capt.America said:
But how I realized this for long ever since I had trouble with my gf and didn't wsnt to leave Her... I work out and still yearn to Still have girl by side to be happy with .
Keep improving until you can sincerely make yourself proud. When you get there, raise the bar some more, and continue your efforts. Along the way, feel free to allow a girl into your life who compliments this process or at least does not not disrupt it.
 

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taht is the first problem I see you still consider you need a girl/woman/wife in your life to be happy, and you forogt no one can give you happiness, if you want to be happy build what you consider a happy life, what job you want to do, what house you want to do, what skills you want to have learn what you wish for?
want to have a farm and work the land? do so,
have a ranch raise horses? ok go on,
have your own bussiness? go ahead
wanna learn how to burp the alphabet? do it

its something you need to ask yourself, kind you already know the answers but you are too afraid to act on then to make thena reality
 
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