"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"I have a boyfriend"
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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“Oh cool. I like it when a woman is tied up like that.”
“Oh, I’m so happy for you.”
“I’m sure he’s perfect for you.”
There’s nothing to back out from. Nearly every woman you see and meet is fukking someone. 99% of the women with “boyfriends” would be looking to jump on an opportunity if it’s a good one.
No woman leaves the house thinking...”God I hope I don’t run into a really awesome guy today.”
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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usually the girl will laugh & say that I got his name wrong & again I'll reiterate how I listened, but get the guy's name wrong again: "No I heard you the first time, I'm really happy for you & Brian" (even better if I use a name that's kinda obscure like Bartholomew, but sometimes my brain doesn't act quick enough)
It sounds so stupid on paper but surprisingly I've gotten great reactions from girls who are supposedly in committed relationships but will still give me their number or consider hanging out because I basically ignore them shooting me down with an ongoing joke.
If one of the litter gets pissed at the joking I'll just say have a great rest of the afternoon & keep it moving.
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Sounds like fun actually. There’s a lot of threads off of that.
That made me laugh out loud.Funny.That kind of silly humour is really attractive IMO,the only problem with me using that is id struggle to keep a straight face! But good un
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
her : i have a boyfriend
you: I have a maths test
her : What?
You: Just letting you know what were both gonna be cheating on soon
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This is one of the destroyer lines I have used.
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you: "Yes. And I have a face."
her: "wait what?"/confusion
you: "I thought we were just trading irrelevant facts
"ur a girl?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You just turn around without a
I had a similar incidence at the gym.
Igniter: I was wondering if we could hang out to know each other.
Girl: Sorry....I have a .....
Before she could say a word after sorry Igniter turns 180 and goes back to do tricep extensions.
Girl: ( chasing Igniter) hey..I was saying..blah blah blah.
Igniter doesnt even acknowledge her presence or gives his valuable attention to her.
Personally I think its not about having a comeback line, its about leaving her right there without waisting a single second trying to say "its okay" or something else. Think of yourself as a prince, like pook says. She is lucky to have your attention. Any disinterest should not be entertained or soothened up.
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The IHAB line is often used as a disinterest indicator in real life approaching. There are times where it isn't true. Most women are in some sort of relationship, usually an exclusive one, at any given time so the line isn't necessarily BS. These relationships can vary in quality.
I'd try to use some boyfriend destroyer line like many of the ones given here when IHAB is said.
IHAB is fading. With more people using swipe apps to meet people, IHAB's are less commonly used now than they were in the early years of me dating (1999-2005, ages 16 to 22). Even when websites were gaining in popularity from 2005-2012, IHAB's were still common enough. Once Tinder got big around 2013, I think they started fading. I can't recall the last time I got IHAB'ed. I have used swipe apps over the years but have done plenty of cold approaching. Something you'll notice with more use of swipe apps is that some women don't know how to process in-person approaches anymore. This was going on before COVID hit and was usually seen in daytime approaching.
In the 2015-2019 era, the most inane rejection I got was at my gym and it was not an IHAB, but it was a close variant. There was this attractive (borderline cute/hot) woman at gym. I approached her over the course of 2 or 3 distinct times in about a 10 day time frame. She wore earbuds but I got good body language from her. It took 2-3 approaches to get the ask out because I could sense her focus in working out. It wasn't like approaching her at the end of a fitness class. This was done in the middle of workouts. Her look was feminine but she was nicely muscled. She was probably in the 5'4"-5'6" range. Anyway, when I asked her out, she gave me some bogus excuse that she had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't going to see anyone one on one. She had moved to the city 6 months earlier, so it is likely that whatever relationship she was in ended 6 months earlier when she moved. About 6 weeks later, I saw her at the grocery store with some guy. That line was total horse manure. I had to see her at my gym for a long time after that and had still seen her at my gym right before the pandemic hit.
update to 2020 , Women do this all the time now, they hide the fact they have a chap.
proves my point then
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Two sausages are better than one.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.