"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"I have a boyfriend"
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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“Oh cool. I like it when a woman is tied up like that.”
“Oh, I’m so happy for you.”
“I’m sure he’s perfect for you.”
There’s nothing to back out from. Nearly every woman you see and meet is fukking someone. 99% of the women with “boyfriends” would be looking to jump on an opportunity if it’s a good one.
No woman leaves the house thinking...”God I hope I don’t run into a really awesome guy today.”
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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usually the girl will laugh & say that I got his name wrong & again I'll reiterate how I listened, but get the guy's name wrong again: "No I heard you the first time, I'm really happy for you & Brian" (even better if I use a name that's kinda obscure like Bartholomew, but sometimes my brain doesn't act quick enough)
It sounds so stupid on paper but surprisingly I've gotten great reactions from girls who are supposedly in committed relationships but will still give me their number or consider hanging out because I basically ignore them shooting me down with an ongoing joke.
If one of the litter gets pissed at the joking I'll just say have a great rest of the afternoon & keep it moving.
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Sounds like fun actually. There’s a lot of threads off of that.
That made me laugh out loud.Funny.That kind of silly humour is really attractive IMO,the only problem with me using that is id struggle to keep a straight face! But good un
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
her : i have a boyfriend
you: I have a maths test
her : What?
You: Just letting you know what were both gonna be cheating on soon
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This is one of the destroyer lines I have used.
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you: "Yes. And I have a face."
her: "wait what?"/confusion
you: "I thought we were just trading irrelevant facts
"ur a girl?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You just turn around without a
I had a similar incidence at the gym.
Igniter: I was wondering if we could hang out to know each other.
Girl: Sorry....I have a .....
Before she could say a word after sorry Igniter turns 180 and goes back to do tricep extensions.
Girl: ( chasing Igniter) hey..I was saying..blah blah blah.
Igniter doesnt even acknowledge her presence or gives his valuable attention to her.
Personally I think its not about having a comeback line, its about leaving her right there without waisting a single second trying to say "its okay" or something else. Think of yourself as a prince, like pook says. She is lucky to have your attention. Any disinterest should not be entertained or soothened up.
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The IHAB line is often used as a disinterest indicator in real life approaching. There are times where it isn't true. Most women are in some sort of relationship, usually an exclusive one, at any given time so the line isn't necessarily BS. These relationships can vary in quality.
I'd try to use some boyfriend destroyer line like many of the ones given here when IHAB is said.
IHAB is fading. With more people using swipe apps to meet people, IHAB's are less commonly used now than they were in the early years of me dating (1999-2005, ages 16 to 22). Even when websites were gaining in popularity from 2005-2012, IHAB's were still common enough. Once Tinder got big around 2013, I think they started fading. I can't recall the last time I got IHAB'ed. I have used swipe apps over the years but have done plenty of cold approaching. Something you'll notice with more use of swipe apps is that some women don't know how to process in-person approaches anymore. This was going on before COVID hit and was usually seen in daytime approaching.
In the 2015-2019 era, the most inane rejection I got was at my gym and it was not an IHAB, but it was a close variant. There was this attractive (borderline cute/hot) woman at gym. I approached her over the course of 2 or 3 distinct times in about a 10 day time frame. She wore earbuds but I got good body language from her. It took 2-3 approaches to get the ask out because I could sense her focus in working out. It wasn't like approaching her at the end of a fitness class. This was done in the middle of workouts. Her look was feminine but she was nicely muscled. She was probably in the 5'4"-5'6" range. Anyway, when I asked her out, she gave me some bogus excuse that she had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't going to see anyone one on one. She had moved to the city 6 months earlier, so it is likely that whatever relationship she was in ended 6 months earlier when she moved. About 6 weeks later, I saw her at the grocery store with some guy. That line was total horse manure. I had to see her at my gym for a long time after that and had still seen her at my gym right before the pandemic hit.
update to 2020 , Women do this all the time now, they hide the fact they have a chap.
proves my point then
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Two sausages are better than one.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.