Poonani Maker
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I found this video helpful http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5aL1SMPAuI
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"I have a boyfriend"
- Thread starter nibun
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
pjtheman
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her: i have a boyfriend
me: ok, i don't date girls who settle for second best
me: ok, i don't date girls who settle for second best
steviecruiser
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the last girl who said this to me ended up tongue wrapping with me on the dancefloor of a club lol
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Her: "I have a boyfriend"
Me: "Just because there is a goalie doesn't mean that I can't score"
I scored
Her relationship was nonexistant (myspace relationship where they don't talk on the phone or in person) and they broke up the next week
comic_relief
Me: "Just because there is a goalie doesn't mean that I can't score"
I scored
Her relationship was nonexistant (myspace relationship where they don't talk on the phone or in person) and they broke up the next week
comic_relief
Hughman
Senior Don Juan
That's just know as an excuse, one which you beat *thumbs up*comic_relief said:Her: "I have a boyfriend"
Me: "Just because there is a goalie doesn't mean that I can't score"
I scored
Her relationship was nonexistant (myspace relationship where they don't talk on the phone or in person) and they broke up the next week
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As for my retorts it depends on the context:
Me: "So, you single?"
Girl: "No, I have a boyfriend."
Me: "Well, that's too bad. He's not insecure and jealous is he?"
Or
Me: "Blah blah blah"
Girl: "Blah blah, me and my boyfriend"
Me: *ignore comment, keep gaming* - if no progress - *ignore girl, switch target, "So you and your boyfriend happy together? (judge reaction) etc*
or
Me: "We should hang some time. Got a number I can get you on?"
Girl: "Sorry, I have a boyfriend."
Me: "I didn't ask if you had a boyfriend or not. That information is inconsequential to me. He isn't real needy and clingy is he?" (or another neg on the boyfriend, or make it apparent I'm cool with her dating several guys*
Best thing is to not respond when she says she has a boyfriend, If she does then thats fine, if she doesn't then that still fine, many girls will always have someone they can call a boyfriend, but sure enough she can find a better one right...:yes: The worse mistake you can make is mentioning if she has a boyfriend and if she does you are just giving her a reason to talk about him. Remember the only time a girl will tell you if she has a boyfriend is if you show to much interest a the beginning or possibly if you say something ridiculous.
I have a sister that has a boyfriend who tells me this, and i have gone out with her to bars with her and her friends. When she sees a guy she likes she acts like she doesn't have a boyfriend. A boyfriend is an obstacle to the desired outcome- winnering her over/getting a date/****ing her. So if she tells you she has a boyfriend continue gaming her. All YOU have to do is get them to believe they want you to **** them and it's on!
I have a sister that has a boyfriend who tells me this, and i have gone out with her to bars with her and her friends. When she sees a guy she likes she acts like she doesn't have a boyfriend. A boyfriend is an obstacle to the desired outcome- winnering her over/getting a date/****ing her. So if she tells you she has a boyfriend continue gaming her. All YOU have to do is get them to believe they want you to **** them and it's on!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
nateistoraw
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lol to the cross-examination thing. But there is really nothing else you can do but plant a seed and wait for rebound(WHILE YOU ARE SINGLE).lol
move along like that song
move along like that song
nismo-4
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That's because guys go after any girl they think is single. Poor/ ugly guys usually don't have options or have strongly relied on luck to meet women. They have to scrape the bottom of the barrel and just settle or take what girl is given to them.sux2bu said:
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No, stealing girlfriends (especially HB8+'s) is mandatory.aftershock said:Girl: "I have a boyfriend"
Me: "And since when has that bothered me?"
Or similar. I'd have to have built good rapport first though.
Stealing girlfriends is fun
Just a Shot Away
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Me: Lunch?
Her: "I can't...I have a boyfriend."
Me: *snaps fingers* Should've known.
Her: Why?! It's not ASSUMED....
That really made it worse. She kept trying to like, cheer me up or something as I was making my escape. She was probably lying too.
Her: "I can't...I have a boyfriend."
Me: *snaps fingers* Should've known.
Her: Why?! It's not ASSUMED....
That really made it worse. She kept trying to like, cheer me up or something as I was making my escape. She was probably lying too.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"great, he can make us breakfast in the morning"
"so, how does it feel to be in a perfect relationship", to which she will answer its not perfect, and you can say, "then what stops you from having coffee with me.."
"you don't have to convince me someone else finds you attractive..."
"so, how does it feel to be in a perfect relationship", to which she will answer its not perfect, and you can say, "then what stops you from having coffee with me.."
"you don't have to convince me someone else finds you attractive..."
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.