I had attention and luck from women, now that I'm in my mid 30s, nothing

[Jason9]

From my late teens until around 31 I had a lot of attention from women. I didn't know what to say and never took my chances. A lot of chance encounters I never took.

I was called sexy and hot.

One time at the park when I was 27, there were these three attractive women around 19 years old deliberately by choice decided to come towards me and said I am sexy amongst themselves as they were close, I was preparing for sports practice so I didn't nothing.

Another time I was going to my train depot and I had to catch my train, there were two younger women who was dancing towards me and danced to me, I didn't do nothing as I was catching the train.

I really regret not taking my chances.

I'm in my mid 30s now and in the last few years, absolutely nothing. On dating apps, I only get swiped by an attractive women once per month, otherwise they are below average looking women who swipe me. I don't mind simple looking women, but I don't get ok looking women or even simple looking women swipe me.

A lot of below average looking women who swipe me on dating apps.

I relied on chance encounters as many of it happened before as you read.

If I was in my 20s and go to a club, id probably expect women to make eye contact with me first, then I'd go in.

I don't get any eye contact or chance encounters for the last few years as I used to.

I've been very lonely and isolated in the last few years.

I feel depressed as I get older.

I feel very very sad.

I don't know what to do.

 

[Mike32ct]

How is your hair now as compared to before?

 

[Poonstra]

I feel very very sad.

This here is your problem. People can smell it a mile away and nobody likes a downer.

I get the impression that you’ve relied too heavily on your looks, when you should have been using that time to build something meaningful for yourself. But I might be wrong.

Things won't change until build a life that makes YOU happy.

Don't have a job? Get one.
Don't like your current job? Change it.
Overweight? Loose some fat.
Skinny? Work out and grow some muscle.
Think about what you always wanted to do and work towards that.
Get some hobbies and develop some interest so you become interesting to talk to.
Become social, mingle. Cut people who are a burden or who put you down out of you life.

And somehow, after you done all of that, a chick will appear and decide that you are fun and interesting and stick around.

If you don't want a chick that sticks around and just want sex, the same template applies.

 

[Jor-El]

This here is your problem. People can smell it a mile away and nobody likes a downer.

I get the impression that you’ve relied too heavily on your looks, when you should have been using that time to build something meaningful for yourself. But I might be wrong.

Things won't change until build a life that makes YOU happy.

Don't have a job? Get one.
Don't like your current job? Change it.
Overweight? Loose some fat.
Skinny? Work out and grow some muscle.
Think about what you always wanted to do and work towards that.
Get some hobbies and develop some interest so you become interesting to talk to.
Become social, mingle. Cut people who are a burden or who put you down out of you life.

And somehow, after you done all of that, a chick will appear and decide that you are fun and interesting and stick around.

If you don't want a chick that sticks around and just want sex, the same template applies.

This^^ Its just doing something isnt it,anything to better your situation. Sat around moping in misery will bring more of the same

 

[BaronOfHair]

From my late teens until around 31 I had a lot of attention from women. I didn't know what to say and never took my chances. A lot of chance encounters I never took.

I was called sexy and hot.

Physiologically and chronologically speaking , you're no longer the boy/near-child that you were, a few years after HS wrapped. The time has come to learn what to say and take calculated risks on a regular basis

Exhibits these basic traits of manhood, and you'll likely be more attractive, both to women and everyone else

 

[Jason9]

Thank you for all your insights guys. I'll apply it.

 

[Jason9]

I'm still pissed off, I dress very well when I go out, I just don't have the luck anymore. Neither on dating apps.

Once again, thank you all for your insights and suggestions, I'll follow them up.

I'm starting to hit the gym, lifting weights. I'll continue with my day job while looking to study for a masters degree part time. Which there are a lot of graduate jobs in that field.

I like going to movies, plays, have more hobbies.