"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I got my weiner cutoff, no longer a DJ..

GaryUranga

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now that I got your attention.. the real title

Dealing with competitionand interest levels

Alright, I was never clear before about this situation.. heres the deal I met this girl lets call her L about 1 year ago through my friend, shes 17 and she lives in another town, I was instantly attracted to her physically, my friend lets call him B told her how I was awesome at "advice" so it started pretty bad, I got her on msn and she asked me for advice on this 1 guy, I went AFC so badly on her.. I told her I liked her, that woulda instantly put me intofriend zone, however I escaped it, things went good, her interest in me just kept growin we made plans to see eachother again this summer, possibly my first sex... :p Id hope, anyways recently we had a few fights about how it wasnt gonna workout, etc.. (btw I still game girls that actually live here but the one I got the best connection withis this girl.. ) well it had a rollercoaster effect for her she was pretty downabout it.. thats when I messed up cause it did affect me too and I acted like a complete AFC kissing up to her after those "fights" I could sense her interest level fall.. now this kid shows up, 1 year younger than her and starts hitting on her, he acts pretty afc.. thing is this guy can actually be there with her so I cant compete with him.. also her interest levels on me are pretty low now so she might actually go for this afc.. and I cant compete vs him I was REALLY lookin up for this summer with her specially cause of the connection.. funny enough my interest for her is dropping too :down:

should I give it a break? should I ignore? should I try to fix it?

I wanna know if interest can grow back up in both her and me.. I really wanted the wild sex summer to happen :p I wanna know about you guys whove had experience being on and off with girls, also I NEED to learn to balance how Ishow attraction and how I tease her cause sometimes I gotooafc showing attraction or too ashole on the teasing
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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kizza

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i'm no expert, but seems you still want her. so go for it, just use C+F and the usual stuff - stop the AFC. if you want the 'wild sex' then its atleast worth a try? you either get it or not.

atleast if you try to talk to her, you're more likely to get it.

i think some quote i read here, which relates to this is: you miss 100% of all chances you don't take

so take the chance and talk to her.
 

The Shocker

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I didn't read your post (too long) but I would say your only option is to go gay. Once your azz takes cack you'll never go back.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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