"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I got my weiner cutoff, no longer a DJ..

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now that I got your attention.. the real title

Dealing with competitionand interest levels

Alright, I was never clear before about this situation.. heres the deal I met this girl lets call her L about 1 year ago through my friend, shes 17 and she lives in another town, I was instantly attracted to her physically, my friend lets call him B told her how I was awesome at "advice" so it started pretty bad, I got her on msn and she asked me for advice on this 1 guy, I went AFC so badly on her.. I told her I liked her, that woulda instantly put me intofriend zone, however I escaped it, things went good, her interest in me just kept growin we made plans to see eachother again this summer, possibly my first sex... :p Id hope, anyways recently we had a few fights about how it wasnt gonna workout, etc.. (btw I still game girls that actually live here but the one I got the best connection withis this girl.. ) well it had a rollercoaster effect for her she was pretty downabout it.. thats when I messed up cause it did affect me too and I acted like a complete AFC kissing up to her after those "fights" I could sense her interest level fall.. now this kid shows up, 1 year younger than her and starts hitting on her, he acts pretty afc.. thing is this guy can actually be there with her so I cant compete with him.. also her interest levels on me are pretty low now so she might actually go for this afc.. and I cant compete vs him I was REALLY lookin up for this summer with her specially cause of the connection.. funny enough my interest for her is dropping too :down:

should I give it a break? should I ignore? should I try to fix it?

I wanna know if interest can grow back up in both her and me.. I really wanted the wild sex summer to happen :p I wanna know about you guys whove had experience being on and off with girls, also I NEED to learn to balance how Ishow attraction and how I tease her cause sometimes I gotooafc showing attraction or too ashole on the teasing
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i'm no expert, but seems you still want her. so go for it, just use C+F and the usual stuff - stop the AFC. if you want the 'wild sex' then its atleast worth a try? you either get it or not.

atleast if you try to talk to her, you're more likely to get it.

i think some quote i read here, which relates to this is: you miss 100% of all chances you don't take

so take the chance and talk to her.
 
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I didn't read your post (too long) but I would say your only option is to go gay. Once your azz takes cack you'll never go back.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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