"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I got my weiner cutoff, no longer a DJ..

GaryUranga

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now that I got your attention.. the real title

Dealing with competitionand interest levels

Alright, I was never clear before about this situation.. heres the deal I met this girl lets call her L about 1 year ago through my friend, shes 17 and she lives in another town, I was instantly attracted to her physically, my friend lets call him B told her how I was awesome at "advice" so it started pretty bad, I got her on msn and she asked me for advice on this 1 guy, I went AFC so badly on her.. I told her I liked her, that woulda instantly put me intofriend zone, however I escaped it, things went good, her interest in me just kept growin we made plans to see eachother again this summer, possibly my first sex... :p Id hope, anyways recently we had a few fights about how it wasnt gonna workout, etc.. (btw I still game girls that actually live here but the one I got the best connection withis this girl.. ) well it had a rollercoaster effect for her she was pretty downabout it.. thats when I messed up cause it did affect me too and I acted like a complete AFC kissing up to her after those "fights" I could sense her interest level fall.. now this kid shows up, 1 year younger than her and starts hitting on her, he acts pretty afc.. thing is this guy can actually be there with her so I cant compete with him.. also her interest levels on me are pretty low now so she might actually go for this afc.. and I cant compete vs him I was REALLY lookin up for this summer with her specially cause of the connection.. funny enough my interest for her is dropping too :down:

should I give it a break? should I ignore? should I try to fix it?

I wanna know if interest can grow back up in both her and me.. I really wanted the wild sex summer to happen :p I wanna know about you guys whove had experience being on and off with girls, also I NEED to learn to balance how Ishow attraction and how I tease her cause sometimes I gotooafc showing attraction or too ashole on the teasing
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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kizza

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i'm no expert, but seems you still want her. so go for it, just use C+F and the usual stuff - stop the AFC. if you want the 'wild sex' then its atleast worth a try? you either get it or not.

atleast if you try to talk to her, you're more likely to get it.

i think some quote i read here, which relates to this is: you miss 100% of all chances you don't take

so take the chance and talk to her.
 

The Shocker

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I didn't read your post (too long) but I would say your only option is to go gay. Once your azz takes cack you'll never go back.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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