"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I find myself attracted to you

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I never tell them I am attracted to them in words. I let them know it through action.
 

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Sometimes I'll tell them they are sexy, thats it though.
 

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it is stronger than just "I think you are beautiful", because it deals with more than just her looks.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Attraction - attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement.

Beautiful - having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.
 

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Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".

I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
 

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On Point said:
Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".

I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
Yes, but doesn't seem like he was asking specifically for approaching purposes only. The previous can be used at any stage of the relationship, not just when walking up to her and opening.
 

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i wouldn't say it if I were you. She'll think it's "creepy," the universal female term meaning unattractive.
 

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I learned my style of pickup from Charisma Arts, so yes I do. I SOI on a high note and it must have something to do with her personality or something unique about her.

"I can tell you're very passionate about _ _ _ _ _. I find that mysteriously attractive."

It's not scripted or anything and it's always genuine. If I honestly can't find anything attractive about her besides her looks, I don't progress any further by choice. Luckily that's rare. Most women are very interesting when you know how to find the unique stuff.

Kudos,
Matt
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Am asking because instead of saying they are beautiful like everyone els does. Saying attractive is more ambiguous because she doesn't know what is it that attract her to you.
 

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Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.

Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Obsidian said:
Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.

Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
I know its taboo to compliment woman on this board. I've been here long enough to know that but I am trying a direct method. I made a mistake posting a replying to this thread, I need to take action and just do whatever the hel l I want rather then analyzing.
 
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