"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I find myself attracted to you

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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NickBe

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I never tell them I am attracted to them in words. I let them know it through action.
 

Charm

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Sometimes I'll tell them they are sexy, thats it though.
 

Gangster Of Love

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it is stronger than just "I think you are beautiful", because it deals with more than just her looks.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Attraction - attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement.

Beautiful - having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.
 

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Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".

I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
 

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On Point said:
Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".

I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
Yes, but doesn't seem like he was asking specifically for approaching purposes only. The previous can be used at any stage of the relationship, not just when walking up to her and opening.
 

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i wouldn't say it if I were you. She'll think it's "creepy," the universal female term meaning unattractive.
 

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I learned my style of pickup from Charisma Arts, so yes I do. I SOI on a high note and it must have something to do with her personality or something unique about her.

"I can tell you're very passionate about _ _ _ _ _. I find that mysteriously attractive."

It's not scripted or anything and it's always genuine. If I honestly can't find anything attractive about her besides her looks, I don't progress any further by choice. Luckily that's rare. Most women are very interesting when you know how to find the unique stuff.

Kudos,
Matt
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Am asking because instead of saying they are beautiful like everyone els does. Saying attractive is more ambiguous because she doesn't know what is it that attract her to you.
 

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Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.

Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Analytic

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Obsidian said:
Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.

Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
I know its taboo to compliment woman on this board. I've been here long enough to know that but I am trying a direct method. I made a mistake posting a replying to this thread, I need to take action and just do whatever the hel l I want rather then analyzing.
 
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