"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I find myself attracted to you

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I never tell them I am attracted to them in words. I let them know it through action.
 

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Sometimes I'll tell them they are sexy, thats it though.
 

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it is stronger than just "I think you are beautiful", because it deals with more than just her looks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Attraction - attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement.

Beautiful - having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.
 

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Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".

I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
 

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On Point said:
Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".

I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
Yes, but doesn't seem like he was asking specifically for approaching purposes only. The previous can be used at any stage of the relationship, not just when walking up to her and opening.
 

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i wouldn't say it if I were you. She'll think it's "creepy," the universal female term meaning unattractive.
 

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I learned my style of pickup from Charisma Arts, so yes I do. I SOI on a high note and it must have something to do with her personality or something unique about her.

"I can tell you're very passionate about _ _ _ _ _. I find that mysteriously attractive."

It's not scripted or anything and it's always genuine. If I honestly can't find anything attractive about her besides her looks, I don't progress any further by choice. Luckily that's rare. Most women are very interesting when you know how to find the unique stuff.

Kudos,
Matt
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Am asking because instead of saying they are beautiful like everyone els does. Saying attractive is more ambiguous because she doesn't know what is it that attract her to you.
 

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Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.

Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obsidian said:
Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.

Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
I know its taboo to compliment woman on this board. I've been here long enough to know that but I am trying a direct method. I made a mistake posting a replying to this thread, I need to take action and just do whatever the hel l I want rather then analyzing.
 
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