"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I find myself attracted to you

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I never tell them I am attracted to them in words. I let them know it through action.
 

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Sometimes I'll tell them they are sexy, thats it though.
 

Gangster Of Love

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it is stronger than just "I think you are beautiful", because it deals with more than just her looks.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Attraction - attractive quality; magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement.

Beautiful - having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.
 

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Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".

I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
 

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On Point said:
Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".

I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
Yes, but doesn't seem like he was asking specifically for approaching purposes only. The previous can be used at any stage of the relationship, not just when walking up to her and opening.
 

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i wouldn't say it if I were you. She'll think it's "creepy," the universal female term meaning unattractive.
 

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I learned my style of pickup from Charisma Arts, so yes I do. I SOI on a high note and it must have something to do with her personality or something unique about her.

"I can tell you're very passionate about _ _ _ _ _. I find that mysteriously attractive."

It's not scripted or anything and it's always genuine. If I honestly can't find anything attractive about her besides her looks, I don't progress any further by choice. Luckily that's rare. Most women are very interesting when you know how to find the unique stuff.

Kudos,
Matt
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Am asking because instead of saying they are beautiful like everyone els does. Saying attractive is more ambiguous because she doesn't know what is it that attract her to you.
 

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Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.

Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Obsidian said:
Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.

Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
I know its taboo to compliment woman on this board. I've been here long enough to know that but I am trying a direct method. I made a mistake posting a replying to this thread, I need to take action and just do whatever the hel l I want rather then analyzing.
 
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