"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I find myself attracted to you
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Beautiful - having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Yes, but doesn't seem like he was asking specifically for approaching purposes only. The previous can be used at any stage of the relationship, not just when walking up to her and opening.On Point said:Somewhere on here I saw "I noticed you and wanted to meet you".
I like that better because noticed implies enough without saying it and the second part draws attention to your own action/boldness.
"I can tell you're very passionate about _ _ _ _ _. I find that mysteriously attractive."
It's not scripted or anything and it's always genuine. If I honestly can't find anything attractive about her besides her looks, I don't progress any further by choice. Luckily that's rare. Most women are very interesting when you know how to find the unique stuff.
Kudos,
Matt
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
SoldMySoul
Master Don Juan
less filling or tastes greatWillis said:R u attracted to her or do u think shes beautiful?
SoldMySoul said:less filling or tastes great
Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I know its taboo to compliment woman on this board. I've been here long enough to know that but I am trying a direct method. I made a mistake posting a replying to this thread, I need to take action and just do whatever the hel l I want rather then analyzing.Obsidian said:Just say no to compliments man. You are obviously still a n00b at this so abstaining from compliments is a good rule of thumb.
Or if you must, compliment something specific that's related to her character or creativity. But even those types of compliments are easy to go overboard on (in my experience).