Master Don Juan
- May 19, 2002
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- Northern CALI USA
You can be aloof without the cheating, just focus on something else for a while and make her wonder about you..I do all that too, that's basic stuff. I'm no so aloof I'm out cheating and lying about it lol, tbh that's probably it.
lol oh no the moral police!The level of egoism you display is just astonishing.... you casually mention how you're cheating on your woman and that "of course" you'll never tell her "lol", and then go on to complain about how you don't know whether using her as a house maid and cheating on her or breaking up would be better for yourself. To top it off, you explicitly call yourself (and I myself am an atheist) a "Christian". F*ck off.
I can't believe how you guys come here to cry, complain and whine about how women aren't good enough for you every f*cking day, and then you betray them without even feeling any shame about your hypocrisy. This sh!t is demoralizing.
Of course I worry about myself first you daft jvack ass. I'm not hurting anybody, I make sure she doesn't know what I do on the side, I'm not about hurting people. I'm free to fornicate with whomeverI want Life isn't fair, accept it azzhole.
I've heard someone once say either you retire from the game or the game retires you. I also don't have the time/energy to crease those scenarios although I admit I do try at times. I have found that most females that still have the ability to bear children healthy want marriage. This is just reality... and I understand their desire for that kind of security to be honest.This is a big key for me too. I realize it sounds juvenile to admit it, but there's something about the rush of flirtation that's almost as good as conquest. The feeling that you could slay it but you haven't yet. I too was not great with women as a teen and even in college I could have been better. I think my adult/redpill years are like making up for lost time or trying to relive my adolescence or something. But, I don't have the energy to constantly create scenarios like that. When I was younger there was more drinking, more parties and get togethers. Now what? Hit up a bar? Cold approaches during the day? Half my day I'm figuring out my life and the other half just taking a load off.
Sometimes I envision this amazing married life with a couple of kids, the wife stays hot (is younger but ages well). Maybe once in a great while I stumble into a side lay but it's purely physical and never discovered. But what you say is true about most American women and plenty of other westerners. I'm in Spain now and I've noticed a marked difference in female behavior here. It's not perfect but they are nicer to men and to each other, at least where I am. It's very family-oriented here and from what I've read and seen, it's not so easy to score a casual lay - people protect reputations. So I may go through a dry spell but I'm also charmed by what I've encountered so far. (And this is a fairly liberal/open country otherwise; there are plenty of ugly feminists here too.)
Contrast that to before I left, I had drinks with an American chick in NY who told me she'd "only been in two orgies." She was 22 or 23. Good for her but why broadcast it? Lol. And I would have banged her if she let me - we made out but that was it. Probably a good thing.
Not sure where I'm going with all this other than I feel you bro...and I don't believe in "the one" of course but there's something to be said for a supportive, feminine, and yeah for lack of a better term strong (not in the bytchy sense) woman by your side. But you can do that without getting married. I personally have had the best experiences with women from traditional backgrounds/countries - women who were from Asia and South America. My worst experiences were with white Americans girls, but I lived in the Northeast so maybe that's why.
I agree with you 100% I do want a scenario where I can have my cake and eat it too. But if it comes down to it I'd rather have her than a lonely life of chasing women. Therefore I am not giving her up at this time. As I said above I look after myself first, she can certainly leave me as well if she isn't happy. I have nothing to feel guilty about in that respect.What you want is the Disney equilvant of the girl dreaming of hot well hung Prince Charming who will sweep her off her feet, they move to a mansion where he dots on her while showering her with diamonds and luxury cars.
You’re gf is the adult in the relationship and the buffer representing security and stability which you don’t have without her, it seems. You want to keep that while f**king other women. She’s a safe bet and is willing to provide you something you want and you don’t want to give that up but you want to live like a single man too.
In order for clarity to be achieved it has to be based on reality and while you are saying you have this dilemma, what you are really looking for is a solution to how you can have your cake and eat it to without destroying other people and feel good about your decisions and that’s not realistic.
It really is one or the other if you want this to do this and feel ok about it.
But honestly my advice is to be single, because you really, really, really are not husband material and that’s ok.
It may hurt her for a bit, but she will get over it and meet a guy who can reciprocate what she has to offer, because you can’t. And that’s also ok just be honest about that. You’re not the one for her and she’s not the one for you.