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She's not obese just overweight.Its over for people considering marriage with obese womanburgers
I don't think that's necessarily true.If you were fat she would run from you
Blunt answer but true nonetheless. It's this guys' complete disregard for his own boundary which is leading him in five directions at the same time. Insecurity in his decision making is what's weighing him down like a Blue Whale, gasping for air through a pinched straw. Make a decision then stand with it. Whether it's good or bad for someone else is, in truth, irrelevant. Sometimes being selfish is the most appreciative thing you can do for your long-term mental state.The whole premise of this thread boils down to a unicorn.
Obviously the OP has a dilemma. So why did he get into the situation in the first place? Now he’s wasted five years of another person’s life.
Not only did he not follow his own nature but he’s going to have to thrash her to get back to where he needs to be.
She knows how to manage money and he is a financial wreck. I don’t have a dog in this hunt so I don’t give a $hit. The fact is, he’s a chump under all of that.
I like your post..Reyaj, you said that your finances are in terrible shape. Obviously, that's weighing heavily on your mind because you said it twice. It seems that part of the reason why you want to marry this girl is that she's got her sh!t together (except for her weight) and you don't. Would you still consider marrying her if your finances weren't a mess or would you try to pursue a hotter woman?
Why are your finances in such bad shape? Are you too lazy to work hard? Lack of ambition/motivation? Out of control spending on things you can't really afford? Do you have a gambling or drug problem? I'm not being condescending - just trying to understand what the issue is.
A marriage is the last thing someone in your position should be considering. It's not going to end well. You don't love your girlfriend; in fact, you are not even attracted to her. Your are cheating on her and will continue to do so after marriage. Eventually, you will get caught. She is going to resent you not only for being a cheater but also for not being financially successful (trust me, if she doesn't now, she will after you get married). It's all going to end in a messy divorce. You are going to end up like one of those deadbeat dads, with no money to pay child support and an ex that hates him. You re going to ruin your life, and probably your girlfriend's life too.
This was the philosophy I followed in my last marriage predicament. I think history will be repeating itself.Blunt answer but true nonetheless. It's this guys' complete disregard for his own boundary which is leading him in five directions at the same time. Insecurity in his decision making is what's weighing him down like a Blue Whale, gasping for air through a pinched straw. Make a decision then stand with it. Whether it's good or bad for someone else is, in truth, irrelevant. Sometimes being selfish is the most appreciative thing you can do for your long-term mental state.
Yes my gf is not a whale.. my last one was. She just is heavier from when she was when I was first seeing her... I couldn't get enough sex from her initially, now I lust for other women.1 - Do not settle down with this girl. Your frame of mind is nowhere near that of someone ready to get married.
2 - I feel you on the weight gain topic. It's a touchy subject but sadly it's just reality for American women these days. They get comfortable after being in a relationship, don't care anymore, and go to hell. Short of finding either a gym nut or someone with genes that will keep her thin, most American women will become big. I experienced this in a relationship years ago as well. It is saddening. She didn't become a "whale" so to speak, but she clearly digressed even a year into the relationship.
Good luck.
Are you in good shape and do you work out? Does she feel any competition anxiety?My girlfriend is fat She used to look good such a shame.
I'm technically a bit out of shape but I look good physique wise if that makes any sense. We both said we are going to work out consistently this new year so we'll see. The thing that is scary is she does actually work out a few times a week and eats relatively healthy during the week, just not on weekends. I fear it might be her age that is diminishing her looks and weight retention. As Des says once a women hits 27 they expire, my girl is now 28.Are you in good shape and do you work out? Does she feel any competition anxiety?
Metabolism slows with age but she can still lose weight by eating less calories and exercising. If she has trouble eating less, she should eat foods that will keep her satiated such as complex carbs and fiber dense foods such as vegetables.I'm technically a bit out of shape but I look good physique wise if that makes any sense. We both said we are going to work out consistently this new year so we'll see. The thing that is scary is she does actually work out a few times a week and eats relatively healthy during the week, just not on weekends. I fear it might be her age that is diminishing her looks and weight retention. As Des says once a women hits 27 they expire, my girl is now 28.
Part of me feels likes a dirt bag for being so superficial... the other side of me wants to bang hot girls with thinner bodies.
Is it free?Metabolism slows with age but she can still lose weight by eating less calories and exercising. If she has trouble eating less, she should eat foods that will keep her satiated such as complex carbs and fiber dense foods such as vegetables.
The myfitnesspal app is good for tracking how much you're eating and calculating how much you need to eat on a daily basis to lose weight.
Exactly. And I'll add that you need to seriously sit down and be open and honest with yourself about what you want. Your 40 your not going to be able to play the field with hot bi!ches forever man. As you get older there will be less options you'll have for a good partner.Be authentic. Be true to yourself and be honest with her about your perspective and let the chips fall where they may.
It will probably be the first time you feel truly free
Yes the app is freeIs it free?
What suggestion do you have for him to increase his SMV?Dude's pain stems solely from his delusional, out of touch aspirations. He wants to become a player with a below average SMV. Ain't happenin bruh. He either needs to skyrocket in SMV or settle.
Dude wants to buy a fleet of ferrari's with a rolled up wad of chuck e cheese coupons.
You tell me. Or him rather.What suggestion do you have for him to increase his SMV?
Top tier in 3 years or so. He can have body game in a year. He needs clothes. He needs a starter ho. For a player to workout the groups and environment has to allow him to play. An attractive indian can play but he needs to study others whose made it workYou tell me. Or him rather.
He's Indian, 40, with a fat girlfriend, with zero other options.
Available evidence indicates he is below average SMV. Possibly way below average. He also says he wants to become a top tier player in the future. This suggests he is not especially intelligent either.