"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I actually got a hot match on OLD. What to do?
- Thread starter RichardTheFrog
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BeExcellent
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Do it.
RichardTheFrog
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Match.
djthiago1
Master Don Juan
Don't take it personal, she'll probably unmatch after 10 messages.
I get matched with babes daily, know how many dates i've gotten with these hotties? Around 0.
Like some guy said on this forum once (paraphrasing) : "Girls on OLD only want uberchads"
You'll have much better luck if you lower your standards juuuust a little a bit, i'm 23 and i'm nearly giving up on hot girls haha.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RichardTheFrog
Banned
But I'm rich, though. Or I will be.
I already know she's just a little girl. She's only 18. I don't take her too seriously.
I can't force myself to like ugly girls.
djthiago1
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Not saying ugly, just telling you to avoid the models.
RichardTheFrog
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Why? I'm in their league and it has nothing to do with looks.
https://www.dropbox.com/s/6dktty66w0bhxtn/Screenshot_2018-03-20-17-03-39.png?dl=0
That's an 18 year old kid.
djthiago1
Master Don Juan
She looks like easy sex, and a little nuts too, sadly, my kinda girl.
RichardTheFrog
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So how do I get the easy sex?
She doesn't look crazy to me. I'm crazy as fvck. I've been to State Mental Hospitals, etc. Which is another reason why I'm in the league of 10s
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
90% of matches even if you had hot profile are:
- bots
- attention whoring teens promoting instagram or not promoting
- girls that will even message u first but wont actually agree for date
I think i get only 10% matches to date
and recently much more than before.. before tinder just made me insecure af lol now its actually ego boost for me when i stopped autoswipping
but i have bad feeling the better looking girl is the more b1tchy she is. i hate it
imo hot girls on there look only for 10/10 men. the attention they get must be ridiculous. i get a headache if 10 girls are texting me in the same time. imagine about such hot girls.
i wouldnt even text 10/10 girl. in fact i swipe left all 9-10/10 girls
djthiago1
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Go out, be positive and fun, and don't be all over them? Every 10 girl i go out with, at least 8 want sex for a second "date" and i don't even kiss or touch them on the first, EVER.
Conquer the head and the body will follow.
RichardTheFrog
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Yea, and the reality is that I have tons of other things to do. Like that million dollar business I'm trying to get off the ground.
But I think I still come off as needy in these situations.
What would YOU send as the first message?
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Uberchads...hahaha that was my terminology I believe
I'd say instead of lowering standards, go for cute girls in RL rather than OLD or Tinder/Bumble, whatever. I'm only using OLD at the moment because I'm so bloody busy it's my only option. But it knocks your "attractiveness rating" down at least 5 points with most girls IMO. If you're 8/10 in real life, girls will treat you like a 3/10. Girls online are so unrealistic and tend to be damaged or narcissists in my experience.
Whereas in RL you immediately stand out just for talking to a girl, and you're going to come across as attractive if you've worked on your physique etc. regardless of whether the light is catching you right and all the BS that has to swing your way for a photo to look as good as you do in person.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt
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If she turns out to be a tranny, don't beat yourself up too much about it. That sort of thing is common in Florida, and it could happen to anyone.
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I'm crazy as fvck. I've been to State Mental Hospitals, etc. Which is another reason why I'm in the league of 10s
This should be on your dating profile. I once had one along these same lines. It was totally sarcastic and funny, but that didn't matter. It attracted a lot of women because they saw it as humorous and I think many could relate.
This should be on your dating profile. I once had one along these same lines. It was totally sarcastic and funny, but that didn't matter. It attracted a lot of women because they saw it as humorous and I think many could relate.
RichardTheFrog
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Instead of starting a new thread, I'll post about a different match I got.
I typed guru's opener... She responded with...
"Hey there. I'm Jo"
What would you say next?
I know this seems obvious, but I'm trying to break this down to the basics. This is Tinder. I'm used to SA where it's okay to be more forward. There's nothing in guru's texts that makes sense to say in this situation.
I typed guru's opener... She responded with...
"Hey there. I'm Jo"
What would you say next?
I know this seems obvious, but I'm trying to break this down to the basics. This is Tinder. I'm used to SA where it's okay to be more forward. There's nothing in guru's texts that makes sense to say in this situation.