Poonani Maker
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Good news for us aspiring DJ's since a DJ is a hybrid of the two (more or less anyway...i'm generalizing)Most men fall into one of two categories, Marrying Men and Hardened Bachelors, aka Bad Boys.
Or to get an idea of how her last relationship panned out. The end is always in the beginning if you look close enough...When dating, he asks questions like, “What was your last relationship like?” to understand whether you qualify as a marriage-minded woman.
:crackup: :crackup:Marrying Men like being in relationships. In fact, they need them. Now, “need” isn’t a dirty word when it comes to men in relationships, because in truth, men only marry the women they need.
Umm...yeah, it's called self-independence and self-improvement. Nobody comes first but me and only me.The thing to remember about these guys is that you will never come first; he’s totally self-involved, so keep your expectations realistic.
Good observation, wutang. It's hard to keep a leash on an Amerikan woman because they aren't as loyal as Russian women.wutangfinancial said:Men come in two types, good looking and not good looking. The not good looking guys compensate by having good careers, being stable, and just being all around nice guys. They marry, out of desperation, and their women cheat on them with good looking guys, who were given the greatest gift in nature.
Look, bad boy is simply woman-ese for good looking. All women want to get a guy out of their league and tame him.
i sorta agree.wutangfinancial said:Men come in two types, good looking and not good looking. The not good looking guys compensate by having good careers, being stable, and just being all around nice guys. They marry, out of desperation, and their women cheat on them with good looking guys, who were given the greatest gift in nature.
Look, bad boy is simply woman-ese for good looking. All women want to get a guy out of their league and tame him.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Gubby said:What a waste of space.
"Love coach"?
Unemployed people contribute more.
:crackup:LeComteDeMonteCristo said:Good lord, if there was a record for the highest number of clichés and stereotypes in 1000 words, I think Chelsea Kaplan has just smashed it.