You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Most guys, especially on the Internet are going to make it seem like they are screwing models left and right. To answer your question, I wouldn't treat them any different than any other girl you are attracted to.Ive noticed a pattern on this thread. All the 'rules' tend to apply demanded females/attractive females and not the ones that are not high in demand.
Or do you treat all women the same?
Are you kidding? Do you treat a client who has tons of funds the same as one who has very little? It's about her looks. Nothing else really matters.Ive noticed a pattern on this thread. All the 'rules' tend to apply demanded females/attractive females and not the ones that are not high in demand.
Or do you treat all women the same?
I say treat then all the same to a point, you sure won't try to get anything from a woman you don't feel anything, but some light flirting to practice, or just to make her like you so it will make things easy for you based on her position in a busines can be helpfull, just don't go overboard and check responses.Ive noticed a pattern on this thread. All the 'rules' tend to apply demanded females/attractive females and not the ones that are not high in demand.
Or do you treat all women the same?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Same here. Seems I just can't be friends with unattractive girls, except when the unattractiveness is mutual.I've had problems in the past where I treated them well and they thought I was interested. Then you have to tell them know it's just friends and you get the whole woman scorned drama so they won't be friends anyway and the whole time and the whole time invested was just a waste
Don't know what that last part meant, but I personally would at least try to overlook looks in a non-dating context. Not befriending nor even socializing nor working alongside the opposite sex on the grounds of looks/image/status is what females do, lets not follow their example. This is just emotional and psychological BS exclusive to them, not to mention that in work alone it is unprofessional and tactless. I can't count the occasions I have felt embarrassed or shy talking to anyone I identify as female and being myself, having got such rude treatment by previous other girls.Same here. Seems I just can't be friends with unattractive girls, except when the unattractiveness is mutual.
Typically heterosexual men are attracted to women who display signs of youth, femininity and fertility. Those who have high self esteem and style savvy get extra points. Everyone else who is a woman is no less a woman, its just biology.Ive noticed a pattern on this thread. All the 'rules' tend to apply demanded females/attractive females and not the ones that are not high in demand.
Or do you treat all women the same?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
They will exhibit more relationship parity and more concerned about what they can do to benefit you. There will be very low entitlement out of these types. Also the sex will flow more freely and she will more willingly submit.In my experience, unattractive/average girls will be grateful for the attention, and will do more things to keep you. They also will put up with more shiit from you, and are less likely to leave.
And she can still LOOK "hot" if she was more into fashion, makeup and kept her body tight.They will exhibit more relationship parity and more concerned about what they can do to benefit you. There will be very low entitlement out of these types. Also the sex will flow more freely and she will more willingly submit.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.