"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How to stay interested in plates?

fastlife

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So I've been back in the game for a couple months after my first LTR and have found myself falling back into an old pattern. I have no problem finding plates, but once I have a few plates spinning I suddenly lose interest in all of them and just want to drop all of them once. Even girls I might've found interesting if I was dating exclusively just become an annoyance when I'm talking to multiple girls. I feel like for the sake of efficiency I end up becoming a robot and using the same lines with the same girls--or even if I try to mix things up for my amusement, their reactions are so similar that I lose the individual and they become more of a pattern.

The flip side is that I know firsthand the limitations of monogamy. Anyone have any tips on how to stay motivated in an environment of abundance? Do you force yourself to keep plates spinning just to fight oneitis? Take time off?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheSplat

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Or just find better plates. A great thing happens inside of you when you decide to raise your standards. You become a better person. You might lose your low value plates right now, but they only get better.

When you get bored again, raise your standards again. You shouldn't be messing around with a girl who is less than a 9. You're a DJ. ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SgtSplacker

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Keep a plate rotation going, find a good one? drop the crappy one.
 

Jetleg

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right now no plates, but i usually drop them my self, because its like a bomb waiting to explode...
 

JohnChops

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Or just find better plates. A great thing happens inside of you when you decide to raise your standards. You become a better person. You might lose your low value plates right now, but they only get better.

When you get bored again, raise your standards again. You shouldn't be messing around with a girl who is less than a 9. You're a DJ. ;)
I had this thought process this morning. I was thinking about how the girls I railed in the past were way higher quality (looks and personality wise) than the chicks I banged in the past year.

Decided to raise my standards and list out different qualities I can't have a plate without.

I dropped all the plates that didn't fit and kept the ones that did.

Like magic.
 

thatfeel

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I don't know about you guys but I can't have a plate of general tso's without some fried rice.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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