"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to stay interested in plates?

fastlife

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So I've been back in the game for a couple months after my first LTR and have found myself falling back into an old pattern. I have no problem finding plates, but once I have a few plates spinning I suddenly lose interest in all of them and just want to drop all of them once. Even girls I might've found interesting if I was dating exclusively just become an annoyance when I'm talking to multiple girls. I feel like for the sake of efficiency I end up becoming a robot and using the same lines with the same girls--or even if I try to mix things up for my amusement, their reactions are so similar that I lose the individual and they become more of a pattern.

The flip side is that I know firsthand the limitations of monogamy. Anyone have any tips on how to stay motivated in an environment of abundance? Do you force yourself to keep plates spinning just to fight oneitis? Take time off?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheSplat

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Or just find better plates. A great thing happens inside of you when you decide to raise your standards. You become a better person. You might lose your low value plates right now, but they only get better.

When you get bored again, raise your standards again. You shouldn't be messing around with a girl who is less than a 9. You're a DJ. ;)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SgtSplacker

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Keep a plate rotation going, find a good one? drop the crappy one.
 

Jetleg

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right now no plates, but i usually drop them my self, because its like a bomb waiting to explode...
 

JohnChops

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Or just find better plates. A great thing happens inside of you when you decide to raise your standards. You become a better person. You might lose your low value plates right now, but they only get better.

When you get bored again, raise your standards again. You shouldn't be messing around with a girl who is less than a 9. You're a DJ. ;)
I had this thought process this morning. I was thinking about how the girls I railed in the past were way higher quality (looks and personality wise) than the chicks I banged in the past year.

Decided to raise my standards and list out different qualities I can't have a plate without.

I dropped all the plates that didn't fit and kept the ones that did.

Like magic.
 

thatfeel

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I don't know about you guys but I can't have a plate of general tso's without some fried rice.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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