"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to stay interested in plates?

fastlife

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So I've been back in the game for a couple months after my first LTR and have found myself falling back into an old pattern. I have no problem finding plates, but once I have a few plates spinning I suddenly lose interest in all of them and just want to drop all of them once. Even girls I might've found interesting if I was dating exclusively just become an annoyance when I'm talking to multiple girls. I feel like for the sake of efficiency I end up becoming a robot and using the same lines with the same girls--or even if I try to mix things up for my amusement, their reactions are so similar that I lose the individual and they become more of a pattern.

The flip side is that I know firsthand the limitations of monogamy. Anyone have any tips on how to stay motivated in an environment of abundance? Do you force yourself to keep plates spinning just to fight oneitis? Take time off?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TheSplat

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Or just find better plates. A great thing happens inside of you when you decide to raise your standards. You become a better person. You might lose your low value plates right now, but they only get better.

When you get bored again, raise your standards again. You shouldn't be messing around with a girl who is less than a 9. You're a DJ. ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SgtSplacker

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Keep a plate rotation going, find a good one? drop the crappy one.
 

Jetleg

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right now no plates, but i usually drop them my self, because its like a bomb waiting to explode...
 

JohnChops

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Or just find better plates. A great thing happens inside of you when you decide to raise your standards. You become a better person. You might lose your low value plates right now, but they only get better.

When you get bored again, raise your standards again. You shouldn't be messing around with a girl who is less than a 9. You're a DJ. ;)
I had this thought process this morning. I was thinking about how the girls I railed in the past were way higher quality (looks and personality wise) than the chicks I banged in the past year.

Decided to raise my standards and list out different qualities I can't have a plate without.

I dropped all the plates that didn't fit and kept the ones that did.

Like magic.
 

thatfeel

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I don't know about you guys but I can't have a plate of general tso's without some fried rice.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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