"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to stay interested in plates?

fastlife

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So I've been back in the game for a couple months after my first LTR and have found myself falling back into an old pattern. I have no problem finding plates, but once I have a few plates spinning I suddenly lose interest in all of them and just want to drop all of them once. Even girls I might've found interesting if I was dating exclusively just become an annoyance when I'm talking to multiple girls. I feel like for the sake of efficiency I end up becoming a robot and using the same lines with the same girls--or even if I try to mix things up for my amusement, their reactions are so similar that I lose the individual and they become more of a pattern.

The flip side is that I know firsthand the limitations of monogamy. Anyone have any tips on how to stay motivated in an environment of abundance? Do you force yourself to keep plates spinning just to fight oneitis? Take time off?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheSplat

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Or just find better plates. A great thing happens inside of you when you decide to raise your standards. You become a better person. You might lose your low value plates right now, but they only get better.

When you get bored again, raise your standards again. You shouldn't be messing around with a girl who is less than a 9. You're a DJ. ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SgtSplacker

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Keep a plate rotation going, find a good one? drop the crappy one.
 

Jetleg

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right now no plates, but i usually drop them my self, because its like a bomb waiting to explode...
 

JohnChops

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Or just find better plates. A great thing happens inside of you when you decide to raise your standards. You become a better person. You might lose your low value plates right now, but they only get better.

When you get bored again, raise your standards again. You shouldn't be messing around with a girl who is less than a 9. You're a DJ. ;)
I had this thought process this morning. I was thinking about how the girls I railed in the past were way higher quality (looks and personality wise) than the chicks I banged in the past year.

Decided to raise my standards and list out different qualities I can't have a plate without.

I dropped all the plates that didn't fit and kept the ones that did.

Like magic.
 

thatfeel

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I don't know about you guys but I can't have a plate of general tso's without some fried rice.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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