timmylivingalie
Senior Don Juan
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Do you just poke her back? Freind request her, message her or what?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yea I messed up she did message me back but only to tell me what her boyfriend had got her for Valentines day.Johnnyventana said:"How to respond when a chick pokes you on Facebook?"
Explain to her how poking is very 2006. Also, after you poked her back, the later message was a no-no.
Now she knows she's got you. You're already behind the 8-ball.
So tell her she can poke herself from now on.timmylivingalie said:Yea I messed up she did message me back but only to tell me what her boyfriend had got her for Valentines day.
Victory Unlimited said:Ask her to meet you so that you can "poke" HER back in real life.
Just kidding...or AM I?
Seriously though, if you don't particularly wanna "put yourself all the way OUT THERE" by messaging her, you could try poking her back just to see of you can bring HER "all the way OUT THERE".
If you can pull that off, you can get past a lot of the romantic judo that some women will pull in order to get YOU to come across as being the one whose interested in THEM.