timmylivingalie
Senior Don Juan
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Do you just poke her back? Freind request her, message her or what?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yea I messed up she did message me back but only to tell me what her boyfriend had got her for Valentines day.Johnnyventana said:"How to respond when a chick pokes you on Facebook?"
Explain to her how poking is very 2006. Also, after you poked her back, the later message was a no-no.
Now she knows she's got you. You're already behind the 8-ball.
So tell her she can poke herself from now on.timmylivingalie said:Yea I messed up she did message me back but only to tell me what her boyfriend had got her for Valentines day.
Victory Unlimited said:Ask her to meet you so that you can "poke" HER back in real life.
Just kidding...or AM I?
Seriously though, if you don't particularly wanna "put yourself all the way OUT THERE" by messaging her, you could try poking her back just to see of you can bring HER "all the way OUT THERE".
If you can pull that off, you can get past a lot of the romantic judo that some women will pull in order to get YOU to come across as being the one whose interested in THEM.