How to respond to women who cancel you last minute.

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Being emotionally reactive is weakness. Just let it go and don’t act like a butthurted karen with this . Your response should be the same as when some person you don’t give a shyt about texted you . What it means ? It means you’ll barely even give a response not to mention zero emotion.
If she genuinely had something, she’ll definitely counteroffer. If not chances are she don’t give a shyt about you and giving her a butthurted response will make her pity you .
 

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Being emotionally reactive is weakness. Just let it go and don’t act like a butthurted karen with this . Your response should be the same as when some person you don’t give a shyt about texted you . What it means ? It means you’ll barely even give a response not to mention zero emotion.
If she genuinely had something, she’ll definitely counteroffer. If not chances are she don’t give a shyt about you and giving her a butthurted response will make her pity you .
I totally agree.. I also think, not replying back can easily be interpretated as the dude is that mad that he is sulking.

Yes yes I get it.. Who cares what she thinks..

But I think a simple response like.. That's fine, not a problem ☺ is perfectly okay.

Then simply don't talk to the hoes again.. And if she messages back with a counter offer down the line, or simply messages back to see if your still on the hook.

Response should be either Nothing

Or.. Who is this??
 

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Yeh I totally get this.. I kinda do believe her reason for the flake was genuine.. It was children in need day over here in the UK on Friday.. So it adds up that she couldn't meet me after work for sex, because she would have to get home to her kid so she can take him to the event..
A woman with kids changes a lot. I date women with kids and it's like this quite often. But the difference is she'll at least try to make things up to you... if she is doing that, while not necessarily offering a re-schedule then this is fine. Women with kids often really can not make solid plans, because her kids are dragging her in different directions. If she has to flake, she'll usually say something like "I'm really sorry, let me figure things out and I'll make it up to you." Then she will... this is fine.

Firstly she is a single mom, with her ex constantly trying to get back with her.. Then she is extremely unreliable and flaky with her kids.. Also she is a work colleague.. Most of this spells problem.
Jesus, exes are the biggest pain in my @ss. I fvcking hate that sh1t. Why these pathetic men can't just move on is beyond me. I had to break things off last month with a chick I really liked because she had THREE exes that kept trying to get back into the picture. One MF'er was stalking her... another was leaving presents at her door.... the other was texting and e-mailing her constantly... one of these jack@sss had been doing this for 2 years.

I had to let her go because I got tired of the drama.[/QUOTE]
 

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A woman with kids changes a lot. I date women with kids and it's like this quite often. But the difference is she'll at least try to make things up to you... if she is doing that, while not necessarily offering a re-schedule then this is fine. Women with kids often really can not make solid plans, because her kids are dragging her in different directions. If she has to flake, she'll usually say something like "I'm really sorry, let me figure things out and I'll make it up to you." Then she will... this is fine.

Jesus, exes are the biggest pain in my @ss. I fvcking hate that sh1t. Why these pathetic men can't just move on is beyond me. I had to break things off last month with a chick I really liked because she had THREE exes that kept trying to get back into the picture. One MF'er was stalking her... another was leaving presents at her door.... the other was texting and e-mailing her constantly... one of these jack@sss had been doing this for 2 years.

I had to let her go because I got tired of the drama.
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Holy crap, those exes bring all that drama your way.. Not only that.. Having her exes around is a safety blanket for her, which makes it much easier for her to manipulate multiple men all at the same time.

This chick that flaked on me, her ex is desperately trying to get back with her.. Also he is doing everything possible not to look after the kids... Because he understands the moment he takes the kids.. She will have the freedom to go find dik elsewhere!

Also this particular chick canceled a sex meet with me 4 weeks ago & didn't make a counter offer.. I simply said cool, now worries..

After 5 days of silence she messages me again, start chatting.. I suggest we have some fun soon & she was seriously up for it.. I got her to give me a BJ and hand job few days later.

Point being.. Even though she didn't counter offer, she was still up for some fun.

All that being said, girls like this are pure fukin pain & not good for your dignity.

Best to get rid of garbage like this. Problem is this one works in the same company so out paths will occasionally cross.
 

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Holy crap, those exes bring all that drama your way.. Not only that.. Having her exes around is a safety blanket for her, which makes it much easier for her to manipulate multiple men all at the same time.

This chick that flaked on me, her ex is desperately trying to get back with her.. Also he is doing everything possible not to look after the kids... Because he understands the moment he takes the kids.. She will have the freedom to go find dik elsewhere!

Also this particular chick canceled a sex meet with me 4 weeks ago & didn't make a counter offer.. I simply said cool, now worries..

After 5 days of silence she messages me again, start chatting.. I suggest we have some fun soon & she was seriously up for it.. I got her to give me a BJ and hand job few days later.

Point being.. Even though she didn't counter offer, she was still up for some fun.

All that being said, girls like this are pure fukin pain & not good for your dignity.

Best to get rid of garbage like this. Problem is this one works in the same company so out paths will occasionally cross.
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Yes and as a outstander reading this, I can really advise you to move on to something better without bagage who goes for you. But I understand the rationalizing mind in you because you like her.... I got in a some like situation without even touching her while I was ****ing multiple women that I don’t like.

Best is move on from this, too many red flags.
 

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Holy crap, those exes bring all that drama your way.. Not only that.. Having her exes around is a safety blanket for her, which makes it much easier for her to manipulate multiple men all at the same time.

This chick that flaked on me, her ex is desperately trying to get back with her.. Also he is doing everything possible not to look after the kids... Because he understands the moment he takes the kids.. She will have the freedom to go find dik elsewhere!

Also this particular chick canceled a sex meet with me 4 weeks ago & didn't make a counter offer.. I simply said cool, now worries..

After 5 days of silence she messages me again, start chatting.. I suggest we have some fun soon & she was seriously up for it.. I got her to give me a BJ and hand job few days later.

Point being.. Even though she didn't counter offer, she was still up for some fun.

All that being said, girls like this are pure fukin pain & not good for your dignity.

Best to get rid of garbage like this. Problem is this one works in the same company so out paths will occasionally cross.
Yes and as a outstander reading this, I can really advise you to move on to something better without bagage who goes for you. But I understand the rationalizing mind in you because you like her.... I got in a some like situation without even touching her while I was ****ing multiple women that I don’t like.

Best is move on from this, too many red flags.
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The way I see it is this... I have banged her twice about 2 years ago.. And recently I got 3x blow jobs off her and I got a hand job.

My aim was to bang her again.. But it's probably best not to deal with single moms that make sex this difficult.

Next Set
 

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Who believes ignoring her is the best response?

Don't you think a simple, that's OK, no problem is the better option?

Over just ignoring her text.

I chose the second option, because she works at my company, so I am bound to see her at some point.. So deleting her forever isn't even an option.
It doesn’t matter. If she breaks a date she’s out forever. I don’t even answer unless she says something about rescheduling.
 

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It doesn’t matter. If she breaks a date she’s out forever. I don’t even answer unless she says something about rescheduling.
That's fair enough man.. Everyone has there own way of dealing with a flake.

Total silence or a response stating, it's not a problem are both fine.

Losing your shyte and getting angry is not good.
 

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Whatever you choose to say and do, the important thing is that it at least appears effortless. Ideally it IS effortless for you and never gets under your skin. You simply have a procedure for moving flakes to the side. They're a fact of life, why get frustrated?

You can respond with k or 'its all good feel better', or whatever, as long as it ain't no thang to you. And if you feel frustrated you should work on yourself and your options until it really is nothing to you.

Double booking is great. Generally I'll have a back up plan if I suspect a possible flake. That back up plan could be another date, a friend that wants to hit the range, or I may just wing it at the bar and have a good time. It really depends on my mood

Never let yourself get upset at something out of your control.
 

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Whatever you choose to say and do, the important thing is that it at least appears effortless. Ideally it IS effortless for you and never gets under your skin. You simply have a procedure for moving flakes to the side. They're a fact of life, why get frustrated?

You can respond with k or 'its all good feel better', or whatever, as long as it ain't no thang to you. And if you feel frustrated you should work on yourself and your options until it really is nothing to you.

Double booking is great. Generally I'll have a back up plan if I suspect a possible flake. That back up plan could be another date, a friend that wants to hit the range, or I may just wing it at the bar and have a good time. It really depends on my mood

Never let yourself get upset at something out of your control.
I usually wouldn't even respond back if the flake was an online chick.

My flake was a girl from work.. So I gave her a simple, Yeh thats fine, not a problem.

It's abit complex when you are likely to bump into the sloot at work quite often.

I have a two flake policy.. After that if or when they text me again.. I completely ignore there ass.
 

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It doesn’t matter. If she breaks a date she’s out forever. I don’t even answer unless she says something about rescheduling.
How often do they talk about rescheduling? 1/256?

When they break a date, delete them until they come over and blow you. Ahh, who the hell are we kidding? Women have so many options, breaking a date means you failed to come in first place. We're not hurting the girl, she won't call back. She may be hurt if she didn't get a free meal or a new Onlyfans subscriber, but outside of that, she'll get over the fact you're useless and won't be her beta, despite the fact she still sees you as one. Now imagine if you were doing this as Dwayne Johnson, Elon Musk, or Lebron James. She'll call back then! And she'll ignore all the simps that DM her because they're useful.

Also how is ignoring or ghosting a flake being butthurt? Answer me that! Sure we as men get rejected first. Yeah how often do we NEXT a girl? Most times, we're not NEXTing the girl, we're more just giving up. Alas, girl still wins because she has the power, you just showed her you won't be her new fan or orbiter. Add to that, she showed disinterest first.

These responses of "no problem", "it's cool", etc. shows you validate her flaking. I rather just kick the ball in her court, make her arrange for us to meet (1/256 chance again) and delete her number. High chance she won't call back. Of course we'll never talk again.

I'm willing to start casually mentioning a ex or 2 trying to get with me (for preselection and competition purposes). No matter what, it's all a matter of luck and what she's looking for. And her options. And her exes. And if Chad or Tyrone is around. It seems flaking on her first won't help raise interest.

We're always in competition for a woman. Past and present. Another thing is this: we all care about the girl to some degree. If we didn't, we'd all be giving each other blojobs and not even look at women. But since we do look at women, go for numbers and lays, and we're not in the 10% of men that women go for, we aren't really in a position to say we don't care. As evidenced by us all being on this forum. Men are lucky to get so much as 1 DM from a hot chick (or cute for that matter) in a week. Women get about 50 in a day. How can we not totally care? We can't.

Every man would rather be feeling on a hot girl who actually likes him sexually and watching her blow than feeling on his Playstation controller looking at Final Fantasy VII all alone every week, and of course the designated porn and jackoff hour. You know damn well the warmth of holding a woman who desires you is better than the warmth of holding your own penis or game controller.

Sure we're not all male model millionaires, but pretending you don't care or want women only lasts so long. Even this stuff about getting on your purpose is getting out of hand. Yeah, the money brings the women, not the purpose itself. Women want value, tangible value at that.
 
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How often do they talk about rescheduling? 1/256?

When they break a date, delete them until they come over and blow you. Ahh, who the hell are we kidding? Women have so many options, breaking a date means you failed to come in first place. We're not hurting the girl, she won't call back. She may be hurt if she didn't get a free meal or a new Onlyfans subscriber, but outside of that, she'll get over the fact you're useless and won't be her beta, despite the fact she still sees you as one. Now imagine if you were doing this as Dwayne Johnson, Elon Musk, or Lebron James. She'll call back then! And she'll ignore all the simps that DM her because they're useful.

Also how is ignoring or ghosting a flake being butthurt? Answer me that! Sure we as men get rejected first. Yeah how often do we NEXT a girl? Most times, we're not NEXTing the girl, we're more just giving up. Alas, girl still wins because she has the power, you just showed her you won't be her new fan or orbiter. Add to that, she showed disinterest first.

These responses of "no problem", "it's cool", etc. shows you validate her flaking. I rather just kick the ball in her court, make her arrange for us to meet (1/256 chance again) and delete her number. High chance she won't call back. Of course we'll never talk again.

I'm willing to start casually mentioning a ex or 2 trying to get with me (for preselection and competition purposes). No matter what, it's all a matter of luck and what she's looking for. And her options. And her exes. And if Chad or Tyrone is around. It seems flaking on her first won't help raise interest.

We're always in competition for a woman. Past and present. Another thing is this: we all care about the girl to some degree. If we didn't, we'd all be giving each other blojobs and not even look at women. But since we do look at women, go for numbers and lays, and we're not in the 10% of men that women go for, we aren't really in a position to say we don't care. As evidenced by us all being on this forum. Men are lucky to get so much as 1 DM from a hot chick (or cute for that matter) in a week. Women get about 50 in a day. How can we not totally care? We can't.

Every man would rather be feeling on a hot girl who actually likes him sexually and watching her blow than feeling on his Playstation controller looking at Final Fantasy VII all alone every week, and of course the designated porn and jackoff hour. You know damn well the warmth of holding a woman who desires you is better than the warmth of holding your own penis or game controller.

Sure we're not all male model millionaires, but pretending you don't care or want women only lasts so long. Even this stuff about getting on your purpose is getting out of hand. Yeah, the money brings the women, not the purpose itself. Women want value, tangible value at that.
I agree with most of what you say.. But like I said before.. I don't think by texting to her..

That's fine, it's not a problem ☺ suggests that you are validating her flake..

It actually just states that you have other shiit going on & her flake isn't the end of the world.
 

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How often do they talk about rescheduling? 1/256?
It’s a lot more frequently than that. The point is - if it’s a legit reason they will offer the reschedule. If it’s bullshvt, they don’t. And I don’t even waste time answering unless that bar is cleared.
 

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It’s a lot more frequently than that. The point is - if it’s a legit reason they will offer the reschedule. If it’s bullshvt, they don’t. And I don’t even waste time answering unless that bar is cleared.
Some chics will play hard to get.. And even though they might want a reschedule.. They will simply not bother asking, out of being a lazy cvnt & hoping you will come chasing for another date. (Power Play)

I give you an example.. Chick from work I was seeing.. Was meant to come to mine for a sex session.

Her - I won't be able to come, the kids dad won't keep him & you coming here will be difficult tonight. (No Counter Offer)

Me - OK thats fine, no problem

I don't hear nothing from her for about 4 days, then I get a message asking how I'm doing etc..

So I suggest to her that we meet after work, and have some fun.. She immediately agrees to that & the following Friday she is sucking me off.

If I had not asked her to meet again, then I doubt we would have had that little sex session.

Anyway these type of difficult woman are not worth dealing with.. It's a constant power play or confusion about her interest level.

I think we need to be firmer & don't give these woman any attention or time if they are making the process difficult.

As soon as you sense game playing or low interest, simply stop all communication and move the fuk on.
 

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Some chics will play hard to get.. And even though they might want a reschedule.. They will simply not bother asking, out of being a lazy cvnt & hoping you will come chasing for another date. (Power Play)
No, sorry man. Women don’t play hard to get. When they like you, they make it easy. If it’s hard, it is low interest level.
 

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No, sorry man. Women don’t play hard to get. When they like you, they make it easy. If it’s hard, it is low interest level.

But keep in mind, this particular chick flaked twice but met me every other time & we had some fun together.

Low interest girls don't come and suck you off every other day.

This particular flake was due to something with her kid, which sounds likely to be true.. Add to add to hat she has emotional baggage from a recent breakup, plus she is a work colleague.

It's a factor of things here & low/medium interest definitely plays a part.

Anyway once you cancel that date, it's over for good. She won't hear a word from me again.
 
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As predicted.. I got a text from her this morning.

Her - How's your weekend been?

This was her 3rd flake in 3 months.

Everyone of them because of her kid.. And this time round she didn't even counter offer.

I am certain this sloot is playing games.. Recently out of a 20 year relationship.. More than likely trying to keep me on the hook, and then flaking out when it suites her.

She works at my company so I will see her around.. I can't cut her out completely in that case.

I have to admit, my ego did take a hit. Even though I only see her as a fuk.

MY EGO IS MY BIGGEST ENEMY

I need to snap out of it & not let these skanks get to my ego. I think it's difficult because I see her at work.

This chick fuked me 1 year ago while in her rocky relationship, so she is clearly a cheat and not relationship worthy.

I am thinking I completely ignore her.. Or sorry don't recognise this number? Lol
 

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As predicted.. I got a text from her this morning.

Her - How's your weekend been?

This was her 3rd flake in 3 months.

Everyone of them because of her kid.. And this time round she didn't even counter offer.

I am certain this sloot is playing games.. Recently out of a 20 year relationship.. More than likely trying to keep me on the hook, and then flaking out when it suites her.

She works at my company so I will see her around.. I can't cut her out completely in that case.

I have to admit, my ego did take a hit. Even though I only see her as a fuk.

MY EGO IS MY BIGGEST ENEMY

I need to snap out of it & not let these skanks get to my ego. I think it's difficult because I see her at work.

This chick fuked me 1 year ago while in her rocky relationship, so she is clearly a cheat and not relationship worthy.

I am thinking I completely ignore her.. Or sorry don't recognise this number? Lol
It happens to all of us my man. What we can’t do is rationalize. You should have dropped this girl after one flake. No excuses or exceptions. A flake is low interest level!
 
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