Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

How to respond to women who cancel you last minute.

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
You summed it up perfectly. If a chick cancels (last minute or not) without offering a sincere rescheduling opportunity (specific day), she will not hear from me again unless she reaches out.

"OK hun. Hope everything works out for ya" and move on.
Glass guy would you respond back with something on a last minute flake? Or would you simply delete and ignore
 

RangerMIke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2014
Messages
4,372
Reaction score
6,838
Location
USA, Louisiana
Who believes ignoring her is the best response?

Don't you think a simple, that's OK, no problem is the better option?

Over just ignoring her text.

I chose the second option, because she works at my company, so I am bound to see her at some point.. So deleting her forever isn't even an option.
Yep... just tell her it's not a problem, tell her to get back to you if she wants to reschedule, then forget about her.

The last part is the most important, don't let something like this dominate your mind... don't over think it. Women that are really attracted to you will not cancel without reason unless there is something wrong with her, or she just isn't interested. Don't waste time on game playing crazy chicks or ones that don't want you. If it helps just imagine she is a fat nagging b1tch, with bad breath that can't clean her @ss properly.

Another thing... don't walk away from her as some pathetic PUA 'trick' to get her to think about you.... trust me... if she isn't attracted to you she isn't going to be thinking about you, she will be glad you took the hint and the best you will get from her is that she will respect you.

Look... chicks today, especially hot chicks are spoiled for choice, she can get attention as easy as posting some stupid picture on Instagram saying "I'm bored" and she will have a dozen dudes hitting on her. If she is hot, her entire life she has been told she is great for doing nothing but looking good. Why in the fvck does any dude think that she cares if she cancelled on him? She will always have 2 or 3 plans for whatever evening you have planned... she typically spends her hours before your date figuring out what plans she will cancel.

Calling her out for this it a stupid waste of time, because while you are sulking at home, she's out doing something else, likely with another pathetic dude fawning over her telling her she is great.... your opinion means nothing.

If you don't get this or disagree... keep re-reading this post until it sinks in.
 

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
Yep... just tell her it's not a problem, tell her to get back to you if she wants to reschedule, then forget about her.

The last part is the most important, don't let something like this dominate your mind... don't over think it. Women that are really attracted to you will not cancel without reason unless there is something wrong with her, or she just isn't interested. Don't waste time on game playing crazy chicks or ones that don't want you. If it helps just imagine she is a fat nagging b1tch, with bad breath that can't clean her @ss properly.

Another thing... don't walk away from her as some pathetic PUA 'trick' to get her to think about you.... trust me... if she isn't attracted to you she isn't going to be thinking about you, she will be glad you took the hint and the best you will get from her is that she will respect you.

Look... chicks today, especially hot chicks are spoiled for choice, she can get attention as easy as posting some stupid picture on Instagram saying "I'm bored" and she will have a dozen dudes hitting on her. If she is hot, her entire life she has been told she is great for doing nothing but looking good. Why in the fvck does any dude think that she cares if she cancelled on him? She will always have 2 or 3 plans for whatever evening you have planned... she typically spends her hours before your date figuring out what plans she will cancel.

Calling her out for this it a stupid waste of time, because while you are sulking at home, she's out doing something else, likely with another pathetic dude fawning over her telling her she is great.... your opinion means nothing.

If you don't get this or disagree... keep re-reading this post until it sinks in.
Yeh I totally get this.. I kinda do believe her reason for the flake was genuine.. It was children in need day over here in the UK on Friday.. So it adds up that she couldn't meet me after work for sex, because she would have to get home to her kid so she can take him to the event..

Also she has cancelled once before without a counter offer, and then still ended up meeting me after work and gave me a blow job.

I think with her being from my work/company adds more complexity as our paths are bound to cross.

So not replying back or deleting her doesn't achieve shyte.

However my 2 flakes and you are out policy has to be enforced, so I intend to completey cut this chick out for good.

Firstly she is a single mom, with her ex constantly trying to get back with her.. Then she is extremely unreliable and flaky with her kids.. Also she is a work colleague.. Most of this spells problem.

My aim was to bang her then move on anyway.. Pretty sure she will get back to me, but I intend to ignore.

But you are right.. A simple, hey that's not a problem will also let her know, her flake isn't the end of the world.
 

NSX-R

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 2, 2014
Messages
1,183
Reaction score
796
Location
The land of improvement
Being emotionally reactive is weakness. Just let it go and don’t act like a butthurted karen with this . Your response should be the same as when some person you don’t give a shyt about texted you . What it means ? It means you’ll barely even give a response not to mention zero emotion.
If she genuinely had something, she’ll definitely counteroffer. If not chances are she don’t give a shyt about you and giving her a butthurted response will make her pity you .
 

Warning!

Do not subscribe to The SoSuave Newsletter unless you are already a chick magnet!

The information in each issue of The SoSuave Newsletter is too powerful for most guys to handle. If you are an ordinary guy, it is not for you. It is meant for the elite few. Not the unwashed masses.

If you know you can handle it...

If you already have girls calling you at all hours of the day and night, showing up at your door, throwing themselves at you everywhere you go...

Then sign up below.

But if you're just an average Joe, an ordinary guy, no one special – then skip this. It is not for you.

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
Being emotionally reactive is weakness. Just let it go and don’t act like a butthurted karen with this . Your response should be the same as when some person you don’t give a shyt about texted you . What it means ? It means you’ll barely even give a response not to mention zero emotion.
If she genuinely had something, she’ll definitely counteroffer. If not chances are she don’t give a shyt about you and giving her a butthurted response will make her pity you .
I totally agree.. I also think, not replying back can easily be interpretated as the dude is that mad that he is sulking.

Yes yes I get it.. Who cares what she thinks..

But I think a simple response like.. That's fine, not a problem ☺ is perfectly okay.

Then simply don't talk to the hoes again.. And if she messages back with a counter offer down the line, or simply messages back to see if your still on the hook.

Response should be either Nothing

Or.. Who is this??
 

RangerMIke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2014
Messages
4,372
Reaction score
6,838
Location
USA, Louisiana
Yeh I totally get this.. I kinda do believe her reason for the flake was genuine.. It was children in need day over here in the UK on Friday.. So it adds up that she couldn't meet me after work for sex, because she would have to get home to her kid so she can take him to the event..
A woman with kids changes a lot. I date women with kids and it's like this quite often. But the difference is she'll at least try to make things up to you... if she is doing that, while not necessarily offering a re-schedule then this is fine. Women with kids often really can not make solid plans, because her kids are dragging her in different directions. If she has to flake, she'll usually say something like "I'm really sorry, let me figure things out and I'll make it up to you." Then she will... this is fine.

Firstly she is a single mom, with her ex constantly trying to get back with her.. Then she is extremely unreliable and flaky with her kids.. Also she is a work colleague.. Most of this spells problem.
Jesus, exes are the biggest pain in my @ss. I fvcking hate that sh1t. Why these pathetic men can't just move on is beyond me. I had to break things off last month with a chick I really liked because she had THREE exes that kept trying to get back into the picture. One MF'er was stalking her... another was leaving presents at her door.... the other was texting and e-mailing her constantly... one of these jack@sss had been doing this for 2 years.

I had to let her go because I got tired of the drama.[/QUOTE]
 

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
A woman with kids changes a lot. I date women with kids and it's like this quite often. But the difference is she'll at least try to make things up to you... if she is doing that, while not necessarily offering a re-schedule then this is fine. Women with kids often really can not make solid plans, because her kids are dragging her in different directions. If she has to flake, she'll usually say something like "I'm really sorry, let me figure things out and I'll make it up to you." Then she will... this is fine.

Jesus, exes are the biggest pain in my @ss. I fvcking hate that sh1t. Why these pathetic men can't just move on is beyond me. I had to break things off last month with a chick I really liked because she had THREE exes that kept trying to get back into the picture. One MF'er was stalking her... another was leaving presents at her door.... the other was texting and e-mailing her constantly... one of these jack@sss had been doing this for 2 years.

I had to let her go because I got tired of the drama.
[/QUOTE]


Holy crap, those exes bring all that drama your way.. Not only that.. Having her exes around is a safety blanket for her, which makes it much easier for her to manipulate multiple men all at the same time.

This chick that flaked on me, her ex is desperately trying to get back with her.. Also he is doing everything possible not to look after the kids... Because he understands the moment he takes the kids.. She will have the freedom to go find dik elsewhere!

Also this particular chick canceled a sex meet with me 4 weeks ago & didn't make a counter offer.. I simply said cool, now worries..

After 5 days of silence she messages me again, start chatting.. I suggest we have some fun soon & she was seriously up for it.. I got her to give me a BJ and hand job few days later.

Point being.. Even though she didn't counter offer, she was still up for some fun.

All that being said, girls like this are pure fukin pain & not good for your dignity.

Best to get rid of garbage like this. Problem is this one works in the same company so out paths will occasionally cross.
 

TheGambino

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2013
Messages
2,370
Reaction score
770
Location
Somewhere

Holy crap, those exes bring all that drama your way.. Not only that.. Having her exes around is a safety blanket for her, which makes it much easier for her to manipulate multiple men all at the same time.

This chick that flaked on me, her ex is desperately trying to get back with her.. Also he is doing everything possible not to look after the kids... Because he understands the moment he takes the kids.. She will have the freedom to go find dik elsewhere!

Also this particular chick canceled a sex meet with me 4 weeks ago & didn't make a counter offer.. I simply said cool, now worries..

After 5 days of silence she messages me again, start chatting.. I suggest we have some fun soon & she was seriously up for it.. I got her to give me a BJ and hand job few days later.

Point being.. Even though she didn't counter offer, she was still up for some fun.

All that being said, girls like this are pure fukin pain & not good for your dignity.

Best to get rid of garbage like this. Problem is this one works in the same company so out paths will occasionally cross.
[/QUOTE]

Yes and as a outstander reading this, I can really advise you to move on to something better without bagage who goes for you. But I understand the rationalizing mind in you because you like her.... I got in a some like situation without even touching her while I was ****ing multiple women that I don’t like.

Best is move on from this, too many red flags.
 

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
Holy crap, those exes bring all that drama your way.. Not only that.. Having her exes around is a safety blanket for her, which makes it much easier for her to manipulate multiple men all at the same time.

This chick that flaked on me, her ex is desperately trying to get back with her.. Also he is doing everything possible not to look after the kids... Because he understands the moment he takes the kids.. She will have the freedom to go find dik elsewhere!

Also this particular chick canceled a sex meet with me 4 weeks ago & didn't make a counter offer.. I simply said cool, now worries..

After 5 days of silence she messages me again, start chatting.. I suggest we have some fun soon & she was seriously up for it.. I got her to give me a BJ and hand job few days later.

Point being.. Even though she didn't counter offer, she was still up for some fun.

All that being said, girls like this are pure fukin pain & not good for your dignity.

Best to get rid of garbage like this. Problem is this one works in the same company so out paths will occasionally cross.
Yes and as a outstander reading this, I can really advise you to move on to something better without bagage who goes for you. But I understand the rationalizing mind in you because you like her.... I got in a some like situation without even touching her while I was ****ing multiple women that I don’t like.

Best is move on from this, too many red flags.
[/QUOTE]

The way I see it is this... I have banged her twice about 2 years ago.. And recently I got 3x blow jobs off her and I got a hand job.

My aim was to bang her again.. But it's probably best not to deal with single moms that make sex this difficult.

Next Set
 

EyeBRollin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 18, 2015
Messages
9,161
Reaction score
7,059
Age
33
Who believes ignoring her is the best response?

Don't you think a simple, that's OK, no problem is the better option?

Over just ignoring her text.

I chose the second option, because she works at my company, so I am bound to see her at some point.. So deleting her forever isn't even an option.
It doesn’t matter. If she breaks a date she’s out forever. I don’t even answer unless she says something about rescheduling.
 

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
It doesn’t matter. If she breaks a date she’s out forever. I don’t even answer unless she says something about rescheduling.
That's fair enough man.. Everyone has there own way of dealing with a flake.

Total silence or a response stating, it's not a problem are both fine.

Losing your shyte and getting angry is not good.
 

EyeOnThePrize

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 9, 2019
Messages
1,093
Reaction score
1,770
Age
32
Whatever you choose to say and do, the important thing is that it at least appears effortless. Ideally it IS effortless for you and never gets under your skin. You simply have a procedure for moving flakes to the side. They're a fact of life, why get frustrated?

You can respond with k or 'its all good feel better', or whatever, as long as it ain't no thang to you. And if you feel frustrated you should work on yourself and your options until it really is nothing to you.

Double booking is great. Generally I'll have a back up plan if I suspect a possible flake. That back up plan could be another date, a friend that wants to hit the range, or I may just wing it at the bar and have a good time. It really depends on my mood

Never let yourself get upset at something out of your control.
 

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
Whatever you choose to say and do, the important thing is that it at least appears effortless. Ideally it IS effortless for you and never gets under your skin. You simply have a procedure for moving flakes to the side. They're a fact of life, why get frustrated?

You can respond with k or 'its all good feel better', or whatever, as long as it ain't no thang to you. And if you feel frustrated you should work on yourself and your options until it really is nothing to you.

Double booking is great. Generally I'll have a back up plan if I suspect a possible flake. That back up plan could be another date, a friend that wants to hit the range, or I may just wing it at the bar and have a good time. It really depends on my mood

Never let yourself get upset at something out of your control.
I usually wouldn't even respond back if the flake was an online chick.

My flake was a girl from work.. So I gave her a simple, Yeh thats fine, not a problem.

It's abit complex when you are likely to bump into the sloot at work quite often.

I have a two flake policy.. After that if or when they text me again.. I completely ignore there ass.
 

nismo-4

Moderator
Joined
Jan 31, 2005
Messages
4,312
Reaction score
992
Location
From New Orleans, Louisiana to Atlanta, Georgia!!!
It doesn’t matter. If she breaks a date she’s out forever. I don’t even answer unless she says something about rescheduling.
How often do they talk about rescheduling? 1/256?

When they break a date, delete them until they come over and blow you. Ahh, who the hell are we kidding? Women have so many options, breaking a date means you failed to come in first place. We're not hurting the girl, she won't call back. She may be hurt if she didn't get a free meal or a new Onlyfans subscriber, but outside of that, she'll get over the fact you're useless and won't be her beta, despite the fact she still sees you as one. Now imagine if you were doing this as Dwayne Johnson, Elon Musk, or Lebron James. She'll call back then! And she'll ignore all the simps that DM her because they're useful.

Also how is ignoring or ghosting a flake being butthurt? Answer me that! Sure we as men get rejected first. Yeah how often do we NEXT a girl? Most times, we're not NEXTing the girl, we're more just giving up. Alas, girl still wins because she has the power, you just showed her you won't be her new fan or orbiter. Add to that, she showed disinterest first.

These responses of "no problem", "it's cool", etc. shows you validate her flaking. I rather just kick the ball in her court, make her arrange for us to meet (1/256 chance again) and delete her number. High chance she won't call back. Of course we'll never talk again.

I'm willing to start casually mentioning a ex or 2 trying to get with me (for preselection and competition purposes). No matter what, it's all a matter of luck and what she's looking for. And her options. And her exes. And if Chad or Tyrone is around. It seems flaking on her first won't help raise interest.

We're always in competition for a woman. Past and present. Another thing is this: we all care about the girl to some degree. If we didn't, we'd all be giving each other blojobs and not even look at women. But since we do look at women, go for numbers and lays, and we're not in the 10% of men that women go for, we aren't really in a position to say we don't care. As evidenced by us all being on this forum. Men are lucky to get so much as 1 DM from a hot chick (or cute for that matter) in a week. Women get about 50 in a day. How can we not totally care? We can't.

Every man would rather be feeling on a hot girl who actually likes him sexually and watching her blow than feeling on his Playstation controller looking at Final Fantasy VII all alone every week, and of course the designated porn and jackoff hour. You know damn well the warmth of holding a woman who desires you is better than the warmth of holding your own penis or game controller.

Sure we're not all male model millionaires, but pretending you don't care or want women only lasts so long. Even this stuff about getting on your purpose is getting out of hand. Yeah, the money brings the women, not the purpose itself. Women want value, tangible value at that.
 
Last edited:

image

Put away your credit card.

You can now read our detailed guide to women and dating for free - Right Here!

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
How often do they talk about rescheduling? 1/256?

When they break a date, delete them until they come over and blow you. Ahh, who the hell are we kidding? Women have so many options, breaking a date means you failed to come in first place. We're not hurting the girl, she won't call back. She may be hurt if she didn't get a free meal or a new Onlyfans subscriber, but outside of that, she'll get over the fact you're useless and won't be her beta, despite the fact she still sees you as one. Now imagine if you were doing this as Dwayne Johnson, Elon Musk, or Lebron James. She'll call back then! And she'll ignore all the simps that DM her because they're useful.

Also how is ignoring or ghosting a flake being butthurt? Answer me that! Sure we as men get rejected first. Yeah how often do we NEXT a girl? Most times, we're not NEXTing the girl, we're more just giving up. Alas, girl still wins because she has the power, you just showed her you won't be her new fan or orbiter. Add to that, she showed disinterest first.

These responses of "no problem", "it's cool", etc. shows you validate her flaking. I rather just kick the ball in her court, make her arrange for us to meet (1/256 chance again) and delete her number. High chance she won't call back. Of course we'll never talk again.

I'm willing to start casually mentioning a ex or 2 trying to get with me (for preselection and competition purposes). No matter what, it's all a matter of luck and what she's looking for. And her options. And her exes. And if Chad or Tyrone is around. It seems flaking on her first won't help raise interest.

We're always in competition for a woman. Past and present. Another thing is this: we all care about the girl to some degree. If we didn't, we'd all be giving each other blojobs and not even look at women. But since we do look at women, go for numbers and lays, and we're not in the 10% of men that women go for, we aren't really in a position to say we don't care. As evidenced by us all being on this forum. Men are lucky to get so much as 1 DM from a hot chick (or cute for that matter) in a week. Women get about 50 in a day. How can we not totally care? We can't.

Every man would rather be feeling on a hot girl who actually likes him sexually and watching her blow than feeling on his Playstation controller looking at Final Fantasy VII all alone every week, and of course the designated porn and jackoff hour. You know damn well the warmth of holding a woman who desires you is better than the warmth of holding your own penis or game controller.

Sure we're not all male model millionaires, but pretending you don't care or want women only lasts so long. Even this stuff about getting on your purpose is getting out of hand. Yeah, the money brings the women, not the purpose itself. Women want value, tangible value at that.
I agree with most of what you say.. But like I said before.. I don't think by texting to her..

That's fine, it's not a problem ☺ suggests that you are validating her flake..

It actually just states that you have other shiit going on & her flake isn't the end of the world.
 

soulforge

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2013
Messages
4,427
Reaction score
3,202
It’s a lot more frequently than that. The point is - if it’s a legit reason they will offer the reschedule. If it’s bullshvt, they don’t. And I don’t even waste time answering unless that bar is cleared.
Some chics will play hard to get.. And even though they might want a reschedule.. They will simply not bother asking, out of being a lazy cvnt & hoping you will come chasing for another date. (Power Play)

I give you an example.. Chick from work I was seeing.. Was meant to come to mine for a sex session.

Her - I won't be able to come, the kids dad won't keep him & you coming here will be difficult tonight. (No Counter Offer)

Me - OK thats fine, no problem

I don't hear nothing from her for about 4 days, then I get a message asking how I'm doing etc..

So I suggest to her that we meet after work, and have some fun.. She immediately agrees to that & the following Friday she is sucking me off.

If I had not asked her to meet again, then I doubt we would have had that little sex session.

Anyway these type of difficult woman are not worth dealing with.. It's a constant power play or confusion about her interest level.

I think we need to be firmer & don't give these woman any attention or time if they are making the process difficult.

As soon as you sense game playing or low interest, simply stop all communication and move the fuk on.
 

EyeBRollin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 18, 2015
Messages
9,161
Reaction score
7,059
Age
33
Some chics will play hard to get.. And even though they might want a reschedule.. They will simply not bother asking, out of being a lazy cvnt & hoping you will come chasing for another date. (Power Play)
No, sorry man. Women don’t play hard to get. When they like you, they make it easy. If it’s hard, it is low interest level.
 
Top