Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Guide rails vs. shackles.What is the difference between Leadership and Micromanaging?
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I agree with this and in addition to dumb and intellectual people doing this, Narcissists and selfish people also resort to this as well.Leadership = empowering people around you.
This will free up more of ur time to do something else (thereby offering potential of growth) but you take all the responsibility of failure, should it occurs.
Micromanaging = You control people on a daily basis. Hour to hours, minute to minutes and this keeps you busy.
Minimal to negative growth.
Long term - counter productive.
Normally very dumb or intellectual challenge people will resort to doing this.
Exactly. Followers need to trust the leader, if he micros, it signals he doesn’t trust them and the trust/leadership bond is destroyed in the process …People who micromanage don't trust their followers and thus feel the need to constantly make sure every little thing is done "correctly". People who lead trust their followers abilities a lot more and supports rather than just corrects when things don't seem to go the right way.
The hard part about micromanaging is all the damn effort it takes to constantly monitor and correct. The hard part about leadership is to resist the urge to micromanage.
There is of course much more to leadership, but I don't feel like writing an article about it.
Bingo. And a big +1 to what @Spaz said too.Narcissists and selfish people also resort to this as well.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Micromanagement usually comes from people with way too much time on their hands and inferiority complexes.People who micromanage don't trust their followers and thus feel the need to constantly make sure every little thing is done "correctly". People who lead trust their followers abilities a lot more and supports rather than just corrects when things don't seem to go the right way.
The hard part about micromanaging is all the damn effort it takes to constantly monitor and correct. The hard part about leadership is to resist the urge to micromanage.
There is of course much more to leadership, but I don't feel like writing an article about it.