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How to lead without being controlling

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What is the difference between Leadership and Micromanaging?
 

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Leadership = empowering people around you.

This will free up more of ur time to do something else (thereby offering potential of growth) but you take all the responsibility of failure, should it occurs.

Micromanaging = You control people on a daily basis. Hour to hours, minute to minutes and this keeps you busy.

Minimal to negative growth.

Long term - counter productive.

Normally very dumb or intellectual challenge people will resort to doing this.
 

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They will "follow" without being forced because they desire too. Some ladies don't want to do the "driving" but they need to trust you.
 

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Leadership = empowering people around you.

This will free up more of ur time to do something else (thereby offering potential of growth) but you take all the responsibility of failure, should it occurs.

Micromanaging = You control people on a daily basis. Hour to hours, minute to minutes and this keeps you busy.

Minimal to negative growth.

Long term - counter productive.

Normally very dumb or intellectual challenge people will resort to doing this.
I agree with this and in addition to dumb and intellectual people doing this, Narcissists and selfish people also resort to this as well.

Here's an effective picture that is relevant to this topic.

 

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All leadership involves getting a persons mind first and then they will follow. It’s done by example or beneficial reasoning.
Let’s go do this
Why?
Good sensible explanation to her that she sees value in and agrees with.
If it benefits the follower, they Will follow.

On the other hand, if she can’t normally follow, she’s an uncontrollable loose cannon that may need to be thrown overboard …
 

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People who micromanage don't trust their followers and thus feel the need to constantly make sure every little thing is done "correctly". People who lead trust their followers abilities a lot more and supports rather than just corrects when things don't seem to go the right way.

The hard part about micromanaging is all the damn effort it takes to constantly monitor and correct. The hard part about leadership is to resist the urge to micromanage.

There is of course much more to leadership, but I don't feel like writing an article about it.
 

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People who micromanage don't trust their followers and thus feel the need to constantly make sure every little thing is done "correctly". People who lead trust their followers abilities a lot more and supports rather than just corrects when things don't seem to go the right way.

The hard part about micromanaging is all the damn effort it takes to constantly monitor and correct. The hard part about leadership is to resist the urge to micromanage.

There is of course much more to leadership, but I don't feel like writing an article about it.
Exactly. Followers need to trust the leader, if he micros, it signals he doesn’t trust them and the trust/leadership bond is destroyed in the process …
Like love, leadership requires trust from All participants.
 

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The CEO of my company is an extraordinary leader. When he gives a talk, I'm inspired for weeks afterwards. His traits are:

1/ Honesty - he'll say "you're ****ing wrong" if he thinks my point is wrong
2/ Humility - If I tell him him "you're ****ing wrong" he'll accept it
3/ Glass half full - no matter how ****ed our company is he always thinks we'll WIN
4/ Hard work - he works every waking hour
5/ Balls - he take risks every day
6/ Honour - he treats all of his employees with respect and gives them every opportunity to prove themselves
 

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True leadership means to be able to place trust in people to do the job. Micromanagement is the opposite, not being able to trust people's work without constantly reviewing it.
 

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Read 'The Prince'. Machiavelli gets a bad rap, but he knew what he was talking about.

The difference between a leader and a tyrant is that you want instruction from a leader, but want only to be free of a tyrant. People seek out leaders, but hide from tyrants. Leaders build walls to keep invaders out, but tyrants build walls to keep defectors in. Leaders feed their men first, but tyrants toss their men table scraps. A leader attracts a following, but a tyrant must constantly round up his stragglers.
 

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Leadership = empowering people around you.

This will free up more of ur time to do something else (thereby offering potential of growth) but you take all the responsibility of failure, should it occurs.

Micromanaging = You control people on a daily basis. Hour to hours, minute to minutes and this keeps you busy.

Minimal to negative growth.

Long term - counter productive.

Normally very dumb or intellectual challenge people will resort to doing this.
This right here. There is NO other accurate description. Never. Ever.
There are plenty of people who want to be the leader but are not capable of it.

The purpose of powerful leadership is to create powerful leaders and very competent others. If you are not doing this, you are damaging others. Get the fuk out of the way.
 

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Herbert Norman Schwarzkopf Jr. (Leader of Desert Storm) was asked to run for president of the United States after he retired.


He said: “I will not run. If elected I will not serve.”

That’s exactly who you want to be a president. Dozens of pathetic wannabe politicians with raise their hand because they want the power and status. Not to “serve” others. Leadership is good service.
It builds better human beings.

This is why every woman I have worked under when I was moving up was a shyt story. They are there to serve themselves. Status seeking machines. Never once thinking that human beings outside of herself should excel. She thinks those human beings are there to serve her. Solipsism at its finest.

I had a SEAL team leader say to me once that his purpose from day one was to train his replacement(s).

Could you imagine a woman being told from day one that her purpose was to train her replacement? Hahahaha
 

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Here’s another good example. I will make it more current.

Hillary Clinton lost an election due to a fatal flaw. Solipsism. She was selling herself. She was selling Hillary. She had no real product to sell. Trump came in and was selling a vision. It wasn’t her only flaw but it was huge.

Let’s contrast it. Ronald Reagan was also selling a vision. An idea of individuality and purpose. He carried 49 states despite being hated.

Nobody can tell you what your life’s purpose is. But a leader helps you get to it.
 

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People who micromanage don't trust their followers and thus feel the need to constantly make sure every little thing is done "correctly". People who lead trust their followers abilities a lot more and supports rather than just corrects when things don't seem to go the right way.

The hard part about micromanaging is all the damn effort it takes to constantly monitor and correct. The hard part about leadership is to resist the urge to micromanage.

There is of course much more to leadership, but I don't feel like writing an article about it.
Micromanagement usually comes from people with way too much time on their hands and inferiority complexes.

This is about leading a woman in a relationship but all this relates strictly to the work environment.

How are you going to micromanage a woman? If you are doing that you need to seek help.

I feel this OP is already skewed as logically it makes no sense.

Please reword the OP if you want solid advice here.
 

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This is why every woman I have worked under when I was moving up was a shyt story. They are there to serve themselves. Status seeking machines. Never once thinking that human beings outside of herself should excel. She thinks those human beings are there to serve her. Solipsism at its finest.

I had a SEAL team leader say to me once that his purpose from day one was to train his replacement(s).

Could you imagine a woman being told from day one that her purpose was to train her replacement? Hahahaha
This is the distinction between fatherhood and motherhood.
Fathers are tasked with helping their sons to become competent leaders, until they no longer need their fathers, and are tasked with finding competent leaders for their daughters, so that they can become happy mothers.

Mothers, unfortunately, left to their own devices, far more often than not, become dependent upon their children, particularly their sons, and too often seek to make them mutually dependent on their mothers, so that they won't eventually be abandoned. This isn't even necessarily a conscious act. Mothers will often lament the failure of their sons to find a woman, to give her grandchildren, without ever acknowledging the cause of...Why Johnny Can't Breed.

And, of course, single mothers...those still looking for a man...will, conversely, often chase their teen daughters out of the nest, too early, because their daughters "make [them] look old" ...and because they secretly fear their new beaus might be more attracted to their teen daughters(not a completely irrational fear, unfortunately).

Heck, my standard for female leadership is so low that my favorite female boss-lady was the one who tried to screw all the young bucks in her employ. Can you imagine the same low bar for masculine leadership?
 
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